Help!
My step-daughter is throwing fits constantly. She has just turned 7 and is constantly crying and throwing tantrums when she does not get her way. We have her about 90 % of the time and I would say about 75% of that time she is wonderful and we have a almost ‘mother/daughter’ relationship. We are as close as you can probably be and not be biologically related. However when the slightest thing goes awry, she gets teary eyed and starts to cry. Those teary eyed moments turn into full blown, two hour tantrums that fill the house with her screams and streaks! I’m not sure why this behavior has persisted since her father and I never give in to temper-tantrums. I have tried talking to her, telling her that its not ‘ok’ and why her behavior is inappropriate (in a way she can understand), I have tried walking away, sending her to a quiet place to ‘cool off”, I have tried the ‘OK.. as soon as you are calm we can deal with the problem.. but you have to be calm to talk to me’ method. Nothing is working. I feel like a failure because I cant seem to effectively instill the concept of good behavior in her. She is an emotional child, we know this. We also know that there are abandonment problems with her bio-mom which we are working out with counseling. But in the mean time.. how do we stop these horrid tantrums??