My Teenage Boy Behaviour

[Deblow]

My boy is 14 years and in the Senior High School. On more than one occasion, he collected his exam script and refused to give to us. The last one was when he collected his End of Term result and  lied that they had not been given. In those instances, he did not do well.
I had to really beat him for such lies not for his grades. We have had to get a private teacher to coach him to get his grades up.
Why would he continue to hide his results from us when he knows we can easily visit the school to get the correct position?
What can we do to make him responsible for his actions? How do I get him to always tell us the truth?

[barbiedoll17]

heyy,, iam 17 yrs old and i did  the same thing to my parents, i did that because i was scared if my parents would shout at me or hit me . so my dad came up to me and said dont worry even if you got bad grades show it to me and ill make you get better grades by re-taking my exams again. and he makes me feel good by keep on saying your gonna be the thing you want to be in the future if you try hard. i think you should do the same thing. and is he being  okay now because you posted this a while ago??

[althepal39]

You had to "really beat him"?  What does that mean?  Sounds pretty scary - no wonder he hid the exam from you.  

[althepal39]

You had to "really beat him"?  What does that mean?  Sounds pretty scary - no wonder he hid the exam from you.  

[jdtm]

He is embarrassed about his marks.  When you find out, I expect there is fallout from his parents and so he tries to "postpone" the inevitable.  I think a  better choice would be "pro-active".  Is there a high school student who could tutor your son each week?  Is there help at the school through the "resource" department?  Is he taking subjects that are too difficult for him?  Does he have an unrecognized learning or physical disability?  Is his reading  or mathematics comprehension below grade level?  Is there a counselor at school to whom he could confide and therefore help him?  As I said, the best course of action would be to find out the problem and then help him to solve it.  Waiting until the "exam" is written is too late.