My step parent section..

[here4theinfo]

So this is what I have, this space, my ideas, opinions,responses and questions aren't always perfect, but I just want to have this space to say THANK YOU to all of the "step parents". Being a child of divorce and a mother of divorce, I have had "step parents", my kids have had "step parents" and I have been a "step parent"..Its like a world that revolves around "step parents". I noticed awhile back on these boards there are easy ways to upset people. Being a "step parent" with any problem is one way. It can be any problem and the boards blow up and usually "turn" againest the "step parent". It can be from the smallest "how to get my step child to kiss me, to how do I disipline my step child", and before you know it, peoples replies become judgemental. I think it may just be a "group" of elders that had parents that were married forever that don't quite understand the whole "step parent" situation. Sometimes, being a "step parent" is not a choice, sometimes it is, whatever the "step parent" reason is, I think it is just wonderful that there is another person to love our children!!! Our society should be more approving of it because it is the REALITY, not badger the "step parent" for trying to do what a normally responsible/irresponsible biological parent should be doing. Which brings me to why I am leaving this post, if you find that you are a "step parent" frustrated by 'badgers" and you can not find a helpful answer, post your question here, for now, and I with what ever powers I have, will be an easy listener and hoping helpful answer. Yes, I know this is quite a strestch, but I guess Im tired of reading posts where "step parents" dont ever get an answer, and by the time they do, they usually are frustrated and dont post anymore replies. This forum is supposed to be helpful to everyone, and I feel I can be a helper, and I know there are others on here who are very helpful, so give it a try. I want to see what kind of things I can accomplish that are positive. Thank you so much for reading this! Have a nice day!!

[here4theinfo]

Thank you Rebecca, I really feel that it has been important to write Jaidens story, he was truly a blessing from God. I have to survive now because I have the other kids, for awhile I really thought all I wanted to do was give up and join Jaiden. So bad that I stopped eating, slept all the time, didnt want to talk to anyone, I was giving up!  Even normal daily things started to bug me, bills, messy house, I was confused and lost.I hurt so bad, that I couldnt think of I had dreams everynight, I wanted to live in them, not reality, there was no pain, tears, or sadness. I still dream like that, But something happend, I woke up one morning and looked at my messy house, I looked at my kids and husband, and thought to myself that this wasnt fair. I wasnt being fair to my family or even myself, so I mustered up the energy to try and start thinking positive and accomplishing things slowly. One by One. God didnt want me now, he has dfferent plans for me, I had to be strong for myself and my family. So that is how it has been one day at a time, baby steps. It has made me look at the world differentlyappreciate what I have and loving so much more.  Thank you guys for reading my story, it really means alot to me. So when I say, I would like positive things to happen with this section, I really mean it because its the only way I can find healing!!

[rebbecca]

My heart truely goes out to you and your family. You are by far one of the strongest.  After I reading your story it really made me sit back and think about my own  life. I dont know what broke my heart more the pics or your words. But I give you so much credit to still be kicking.
God Bless You and Your Family !!!!!!!!!!!

[Furnace]

I'm not really a step parent per-say, however I do look after a 13 yr. old girl who is a daughter of an ex of mine now and then. Does that count? She spends the night on weekends here and there. Her mom is in and out of prison and her father never has time for her. It makes me sad for her, so I do as much as I can. I'm having a rough time of it though knowing exactly the right way to deal with a teenager, as I have never had one before. Sometimes she lies to her grandmother with a straight face even though her grandmother KNOWS she's lying...and once she knows she busted, she keeps trying to lie. This isn't her, as much as I know it's something she's learned from her mother. Can you give me any advice on how to deal with this issue? Thank you so much.

[here4theinfo]

Thank you..

[RockRose]

Here4,  prayers for you.  Your story is so painful to read,  I was crying but I really wanted to read all the way to the end.

Prayers for comfort for you and your family.

[here4theinfo]

Please check my info and see if you can copy and paste the link I provided. Let me know if it works, it is a link that will take you to my sons page...Allright folks, off to school!!:)