Hello- New topic for me- My neighbors have a 4 yr old boy whom I babysit and see while visiting (I'm friends w/ the mom) The little boy is very smart, but yet, his behavior is unbelievable. He is in total control of his mother, and what I have seemed to noticed, he does not like his mom to pay attention to anyone else but him. If we are talking in the kitchen, he has to be right there in the middle of us, while there are other kids, the dad in the living room... While I ask him to let his mommy have adult time, he will start screaming and crying at the top of his lungs, he will throw things, use the F word. He will get so upset, he will litterally fall to the ground like a 2 yr old having a temper tantrum. He always wants to do what the adults are doing (I know kids are curious) but, it gets to the point where he hurts himself. His mom was cooking and he wanted to "Flip the eggs" like mom. Mom kept telling him to get away from the stove because the stove is hot, and he could get hurt. He looked right at her then stuck his hand right on the tip of the pan. He will not listen, EVER- When I babysit, I set rules. Example, when we were outside, I said he couldn't leave the yard. He looked at me and ran right down the side walk. When I went to get him, he tells me he fin hates me, then the temper tantrum comes. The mom also has a 2 yr old who does the same. She actually had a nervous breakdown and spent 5 days on the psych floor. The father is never home, but the mother never ever grounds, gives him time out. There is NO winning, reasoning w/ this child. You can be nice as nice, give him the 3 second count, and he will not listen. I stopped babysitting, but when I still visit- its total caos. Stopped visiting, but when I call, we cant talk cause the kids are screaming so loud we can't hear each other. I tried to give the mom advice, but she doesn't listen and just gives him his way, no matter what. When they were leaving the other day, she stopped real quick, I was standing outside her car while she was asking me something, and the 4 yr old kept screaming, "MOMMY! GO! I WANT TO GO!" And because she was talking real quick, he took his chocolate milk and just DROPPED it to splatter everywhere... (Which she wouldn't let him have, but he won) Is this normal? My daughter didn't act like this, all kids are different, though. Is it the parents? What would be the best advice to give her w/ out offending her parenting skills... I'm telling ya, this would be the biggest show for the Nanny- I have never, ever seen a four year old act like this... EVER- Thank you.