i need help

[hailley]

my son was dropped off to me,about amonth or so ago,by his father,who took off with my johnny and with my sister,i have not sceen him in 2 years. I couldnt imagin what he went through,to make a long story short. Now he is saying alot of bad words,when he hears somthing he doesnt like,or if hes asked to shut his game down.Its really upsetting,sometimes i ask him what started this and he doesnt know.i am disabled so im limited to what i can do,if i ry,he starts calling me a cry baby,and laughs,if i shut the tv down then he starts smashing my things,help me!

[margypops]

It would be a good thing to take some advise from a relationship councillor as you havent seen him in a long time. Meanwhile when he uses Bad words dont react, he is doing this to get you to do just that, and its probably to get attention,cut him some slack if he has had a bad time , sometimes it is a matter of time whilst you get to know each other. Make sure he has plenty to do and a lot of Physical activitys ,perhaps you could ask him to make friends and invite them to play if its hard for you. Dont get too upset if he sayd hurtful things its a way of showing his Frustation,it will get better, Good Luck

[RockRose]

It sounds like what you're going to need is to go into family counseling together,  to work through your relationship.

And don't cry in front of him as a way to express frustration - that doesn't work.  You need to appear strong and together,  and crying during a discussion with him only makes you look weak.

He probably has a lot he needs to work through,  and you could benefit from getting some skills in getting him to respect you and follow your boundaries.

Best wishes.