is this normal or should i be worried

[sam6380]

Hi,
My son is 7 (he will be 8 in january) and has gotten into trouble in school since starting pre-k.  He is a loud talker (as I am from being raised by a grandfather with hearing aids), and he is impulsive sometimes.  He will use actions instead of words at inappropriate times and ways (the other day in class they were doing something with balancing and his scissors were used and when they were done some other child took his scissors and he grabbed them back (ending up scratching the girl) instead of asking for them back. He refuses to take blame for his own actions (which is probably my fault because I used to have excuses for everything he did that he shouldn't have done) as it is always someone elses fault why he did something. for example, he fell the other day going to the bus stop  and blamed his sister for it and tried to push her. He is a loving boy ( i call him my cuddle bug), he has a baby sister that he runs to if she starts to fuss and does whatever he can to try to get her to stop and laugh at him and he is very quick to defend his older sister. he's a very smart boy (all his teachers have stated this),  and he gets good grades. he does a few of these things at home, but I find it's just him being a  boy.  I guess my question is should i have him tested for ADD/ADHD just because of these issues?  or am I right in thinking that he is just being a boy? I have recently pulled him from school and started homeschooling him to avoid any problems with CPS or being forced to have him evaluated by a therapist, and homeschooling is going great.  he concentrates on what we are doing and listens attentively (except when his baby sister fusses or tries to get him). Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank You

[benjimom]

I dont' think you would get evealuated by CPS just by having him in the school unless someone reports you or something about your child, etc (bruises,etc).  Was he held back, you metion he's in Pre-K and he's seven.  Was he speech delayed?  My son is speech delays and sometimes we've had trouble getting him to use his words.

No one can force you to have him evaluated.  You might start by going to see a therapist to see if they have any suggestions.  It might help you too to talk about it.

Some of it is being a boy.  Sometimes I think boys get judged harder and school is harder for them in the younger years just b/c they are less mature, more rambuctious, etc.

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't understand, exactly -- is the school saying they want your son to be evaluated by a therapist, or do you just think it might come to that?  What would be the problem with his being evaluated?  (It's an evaluation, not a railroad -- in other words, they might tell you they think he has ADHD or they might tell you he doesn't.)  Even if he was evaluated, it might be helpful or relieve your worries.  Unless there is more to the story, I'd let him go back to public school.  Home schooling is fine, but it is hard for home-schooled kids to get that social interaction with a lot of kids at once, which is part of what they learn in school.