my 7 year old son seen porn on a friends internet HELP

[chellelovesdavid]

hi 2 weeks ago my 7 year old son seen some porn online in his 9 year old friends house,a few days later him an a friends 5 year old daughter decided to try out a sex act that he had seen i was completely devastated as was the little girls mum we punished him an tried to talk to him about how it was wrong best we could,me an his dad left it at that an then today i caught him an another friend an his little sister aged 3 playing a "doctor" game the 2 boys had asked my daughter to perform a sex act on them an both had touched my little girls bottom,me an his dad are in total shock an disgusted at it we just dont know wot to do anymore we thought he had learned his lesson the first time.

[chellelovesdavid]

thank you for your comments,we got a social worker out to the house yesterday to have a wee chat with him,an gave us a little book called good touch,bad touch to go through with him which was really helpful.me an his dad did decide to punish him on this occasion an have him kept in for a week with no privilages.x

[adgal]

Sorry...just thought of something.  My girlfriend teaches her young children by saying this:

If it is a part normally covered by underwear, it is private.  Not for anyone else to touch, nor should you touch anyone else in an area covered by their underwear.  

I always thought that was great.  Very easy for kids to remember, doesn't scare them and keeps it non sexual.  Just teaching that these body parts are private.

[adgal]

I think it's probably pretty normal for him to be curious.  And Margy is right..they will copy what they see, and may think this is ok behaviour.  I am not so certain I would punish..he may not understand it is wrong.  I would talk to him about what is ok play and what isn't.  And I also agree..I wouldn't leave him unsupervised right now, especially with younger children.

[chellelovesdavid]

yes we have stopped him from playing with the older boy an yes we went an seen the boys mum not that it done any good was a complete waste of time,is it normal for a boy at my sons age to be curious about things.x

[margypops]

Well of course that's what chidren do they learn and copy , I hope you have stopped him going to the 9 year old's house at all and spoken to the parents about the matter in no uncertain way .,they are at fault.So don't leave him alone with other children, this has happened so no doubt he will think about it ..suggest new friends play it down now but watch him ..