My 12 year old son has no regard for personal and others safety. He continually makes bad choices. So far, we are lucky and no one has been hurt. But I worried for the future. We do not know what to do. We are a very safety oriented family and always taught safety comes first. Our older son, 14 years old, never has had an issue making a bad choice. We also have a 6 year old daughter. Most of his bad choices revolve around putting her in dangerous situations when we are not looking. Examples, jumping on a very high bed with her on his shoulders, riding an electric scooter with her on it, taking her training wheels off her bike and trying to teach her himself without a helmut, pushing her excessively high on swings, putting her really high on a shelf in the closet, doing dangerous "tricks" with her, the list goes on..... These kids are supervised but he still takes any opportunity when a head is turned to try these things. He just doesn't seem to realize that all this puts his sister in danger. There is no comprehension at all on his part. Now, we also have many other issues with him that include: doesn't EVER accept no as an answer to anything (even with a reasonable reason for it), throws temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way, acts out of control alot, anger management issues - gets mad VERY easily, wants to control all situations - and has to always have the last word - especially when being diciplined, talks back to parents, very moody, lies to get out of trouble and is overdramatic, constantly bothers siblings (24/7), gets "obcessed with an object or activity" - then has trouble "letting go". - he will drive everyone in the house insane with this one. We are at wits end. My husband thinks it's just immaturity and he will grow out of it. We have discussed sending him to a psychologist but I know he will fight us on this and then lie to the psychologist. I also don't know who to go to and we are limited with our insurance. We are against medication and I know his pediatrician is a medication pusher so I'm apprehensive about talking to her. I feel like it's a catch 22 and we don't know what to do and desperately need help. We have tried various dicipline methods with avail. We have taken things away, offered rewards, spanked him, put him in his room, all do not work very well. Please give me your advice!