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what should i do about my 9month old baby girl she gets so tired she starts to fight it when i try to put her to sleep my boyfriend says to let her cry but its hard to let her cry beings she sleeps in our room with us. what should i do?
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thank u guys this is helping... and to thoughs that asked if my boyfriend is the father that answer is yes he is
You may not have this option, but I have found that a child sleeping in the same room with the parents can be hard on the child. As adults, we make a lot of noise as we sleep. We rustle, make body noises, snore, etc. It can be hard to get a child to sleep if we are being noisy while they try to sleep. Just a thought. You got great advice here!!!
We eventually did a version of crying it out with our son, but not until he was much older (18 months or so). Even then, it's not just a matter of letting them lay there and cry. As Annie said, it's too hard on them. And 9 months is in my opinion too young.
Some kids just aren't good sleepers. My son never was. We found getting a co sleeping bed so that he slept safely in between us helped. I guess it made him feel more secure. Also, it was very important for him to have a regular bedtime routine, and naps worked best if we kept him on schedule and at home when he napped (some kids nap great while out and about, our's didn't.) Letting them get overtired makes it harder for them to sleep. If I remember correctly, at that age, he needed both a good morning and good afternoon nap. Try getting her up at the same time every day. Make sure naps are at the same time everyday. Same thing with bedtime. Bedtime for us was a warm bath, followed by a bottle (at that age), cuddle/rocking/story time, then in bed at a consistent time. It really helped .
If it helps, our schedule went something like this...7am wake up, 10 am nap, 2 pm nap 7 pm bedtime.
Good luck, I know how hard it can be when your child doesn't want to sleep and fights it. Exhausting.
Some kids just aren't good sleepers. My son never was. We found getting a co sleeping bed so that he slept safely in between us helped. I guess it made him feel more secure. Also, it was very important for him to have a regular bedtime routine, and naps worked best if we kept him on schedule and at home when he napped (some kids nap great while out and about, our's didn't.) Letting them get overtired makes it harder for them to sleep. If I remember correctly, at that age, he needed both a good morning and good afternoon nap. Try getting her up at the same time every day. Make sure naps are at the same time everyday. Same thing with bedtime. Bedtime for us was a warm bath, followed by a bottle (at that age), cuddle/rocking/story time, then in bed at a consistent time. It really helped .
If it helps, our schedule went something like this...7am wake up, 10 am nap, 2 pm nap 7 pm bedtime.
Good luck, I know how hard it can be when your child doesn't want to sleep and fights it. Exhausting.
I don't personally believe in crying it out, it's awfully hard on a baby. I also feel it's less likely that a dad who is thoroughly bought into the whole idea of fatherhood would counsel the mom to do it. As RR says, is this guy the dad of the baby? Is he happy to be a dad?
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She is a good age to help her start learn to self-soothe, but you still need to be there to reassure her. I also do not believe in letting babies cry at that age, but you also have to start good habits now. I always liked a middle of the road approach. I would establish a routine of bottle, story, snuggles, etc. We would put on the same lullaby CD every night, and start the routine at the same time every night. When they were learning to fall asleep on their own, I would start out by gently patting or rubbing their backs. As they settled, I would put more distance between us. If she fussed or cried, I would reassure her by saying "night night, I love you." That was the only response I would give. The next night, I would spend less time rubbing and more time with more distance. The process took a few days, but in less than a week we were at the point where I could simply call "night-night, I love you" from the other room, and that was enough reassurance for them. This actually worked for both of my kids, and they were around the age of your little one. Of course, some kids are more stubborn and you may need to make modifications- I would just encourage you to try a gentler approach given her age before going to cry it out.