My daughter is 14. She dresses decently and quite modest compared to other girls in High School. While the other girls are out showing off cleavage and buttcheeks she is at home. She doesn't always like our rules but it does give her an easy out when she doesn't feel some behavior isn't appropriately. She can simply say my parents won't allow that. As far as dating we have talked about it and told her under some circumstances she may be allowed to start dating. First thing is we need to meet the boy. She's been asked out but when she says her parents need to meet him they have all chickened out so far.
I am already getting teased because I am planning on teaching Ryder manners when it comes to dating. Old fashioned stuff, and I am sure by the time he is dating it will be ancient..lol. But I want him to always make sure his date gets home safely, to respect her, meet her parents, get her home on time, etc. etc. So many tell me those days are gone...but I don't think they have to be. My son will grow up respecting women if it kills me!!! Honestly, I do think it would be easier if he just stayed a baby..lol. Once again,I need to find the route to NeverNeverLand...little boys never grow up there!!!
I hear ya!!! My oldest is now 14 and I'm constantly on her...that's too short, too tight, etc. and she actually is a very modest dresser, especially compared to some of the other kids. Puberty his her hard and fast...At 12 she was wearing a training bra..she is now transitioning to a "D" cup so finding clothes to fit her that don't accentuate her assets is hard.
She started high school this year and the first week she had a boy ask her to go to the movies...alone...like a date. I was like "uhm NO, you won't be dating alone til your 90" lol
I honestly dont' see HOW parents can let their children out of the house in some of the things they do. I look at these other kids and think there is no way in h-ell I would let my child dress that way.
I even get on to DS5 becuase he likes to wear collared shirts with undershirts but towards the end of the day he gets hot and will take the collared shirt off while at school and just wear the undershirt. I keep having to explain to him that it's not appropriate. I finally had to stop letting him wear undershits for now so he won't do that.
My parents had their problems, but let me tell you, they were so strict about how I dressed and presented myself. They were like you Teko...no tattoos, piercings, I was hardly allowed to wear any makeup (it had to be discreet), nothing hanging out or exposed, heck I wasn't even allowed to wear the color black..they said it was innapropriate on young women! It used to make me mad, but I am grateful now.
Losingmymind and Ash, I agree, tuck in those boobs and butt cheeks! Sometimes I wonder if these young people get dressed in the dark or don't own a mirror..lol.
Oh, I am so afraid...imagine what they will be doing in 14 years when Ryder is a teen! Yikes!!
Amanda-- that video STILL cracks me up...pants on the ground...you're lookin' like a fool with your PANTS on the GROUND!
Anyway... I think that if anything is showing that should be covered by underwear there's a serious problem...and likewise, if your pants aren't reasonably worn to cover your underwear...another problem.
Although I read that they think that this law targets "one type of person....one race group...one age group" but that's funny because every time I think of sagging pants I think of this girl (little blonde white girl) that sat in front of me in my philosophy class in college my sophomore year....EVERY DAY her buttcrack was hanging out. I'm fairly sure she didn't wear underwear...and every day I would debate telling her but I kept thinking "she has to know...she has to feel the breeze..."
I would like to see more laws for this...personally.
I won't let my daughter dress like a hoochie no matter what the other kids were doing. there's still something to the old adage that "what isn't shown makes you mysterious and desirable" for women and "basic decency" for men.
We recently had a case of a young black male (17 yo) wearing baggy pants and had concealed a handgun inside them. He had it tied inside his pants so it wouldn't be found on a pat down search. He had this at a high school football game. I think this is one of the reasons the city council pushed this through.
LMAO...it's so funny you posted this becuase this is where I live!!!
I don't like the baggy pants but I also don't like the women who walk around with their boobs and butt cheeks hanging out either....what about them?
Chances are these lazy cops won't enforce it. Hell they won't even enforce the carseat laws!
I never cared what the other kids were doing. I had my limits. Skirts to a certain length, no cleavage from either gender, and let them know that free expression only goes so far. No piercings, tattoos, notta! Nope, when they are paying their own way, they are free to express themselves in any fashion they wanted but not in my house. I remember when my daughter was dating this guy and she came home with what looked like a dog collar around her neck and it had a chain attached. I looked at her and said what is that? She said it was what all the kids were doing! I went off like a bottle rocket! Then they decided they had to have the thong! And the low hipster pants with the thong! Have you ever sat in a restaurant behind someone wearing a thong and low pants? No, Not under my roof! I have no problem with other people and how they raise their children, but me, old school that I am, no room for negotiation! lol
Very true Brice. With all the horrid things out there that kids can get involved in I guess this is not such a big deal. But it drives me bonkers!! I can only wonder what they will be doing by the time my son is a teenager. I am glad I have a long time to go before that...lot's of time to prepare...lol.
That is a trend I cannot stand! And I guess this is someones way at getting back at me, but my youngest son is what they call a "Skittle Thug". He wears the brightest colored stuff, but then baggy pants..... I look at it this way. My kid is a bright young man, gets good grades, and is never in trouble. He is a boy scout (when he can pick his damn pants up) and lives pretty close to the scout motto. He is polite, has honor, integrity, and is honest as the day is long. This is his sense of style, and if this is the only thing he is doing that drives me up the wall, I should be greatful.
On the other hand.... I was raised old school. Pants are up around the waist, shirt is tucked in, gig line is straight (belt buckle lined up with the fly on your pants) and my hair is short and in order. I have threatened that when I see my kid with his pants around his waist, that I am going to make him take them off and hang out in his underwear. If he gets hauled in to the pokey, so be it. (Chances are that I'd get hauled in if I made this happen)
I cant stand this style/fad and hope it would pass before my kids would catch on. It didnt. Even though my kid looks a bit like a jack @$$, he is still a good kid and I need to remember to judge people by their character and not theri appearance. (But first impressions seem to stick with me.....oh well)
That is funny. I guess you saw the video of this guy! My kids tried to download it to my husband's blackberry hoping it would go off in the middle of a business meeting but they got caught. He was mad but I couldn't quit laughing.
I cannot stand seeing these young men's underwear!! And it's not just the black kids doing it. They're all trying to get away with it. I say HURRAY for this town!!
I read this and what starts going through my head..."Pant's on the Ground, pant's on the ground"...lol.
That being said, I do wish schools and parents would start enforcing a bit of a dress code with children. Our young girls need to learn that exposing more skin is not attractive..and our young men...they need to pull their pants up!!!