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What We Can Learn from Teen Mom Who Waxed 3-Year-Old's Eyebrows
When former "Teen Mom" star Farrah Abraham proudly blogged about waxing and tweezing her 3-year-old daughter Sophia's eyebrows this week, readers wasted no time in online shaming her.
"Are you developmentally challenged?" "This is sad!!!! She is a little girl!!!!" "You are insane," "That poor baby" and "Shame on you!!!!" were among the comments in response to Abraham's blog post on the social network, Sulia.
In it, the 20-year-old mom, who recently underwent $16,000 worth of plastic surgery to alter her breasts, chin and nose, wrote about how she decided to wax 3-year-old Sophia's "unibrow" because she felt bad for her. When Sophia protested mid-wax, Abraham finished the job by using tweezers on her sleeping child. "I feel like a good mom," she wrote. "Other moms tell me your ideas!"
"It's very easy to vilify this young mom, and what I think we might focus on instead is how to provide support to all moms about what's appropriate at different stages of development," Child Mind Institute psychologist Rachel Busman told Yahoo! Shine. "I understand a parent's desire to have their child look good and fit in. So I try to look at the best intentions."
On the other hand, she added, "There seems to be more of a focus on children's appearances at a younger and younger age, and I think that is concerning."
Busman also noted that Abraham is not an aesthetician, and that young Sophia's skin could have been burned by the wax. "It can be a painful experience," she said, "especially for a child who doesn't know what's happening."
Pageant mom Lisa VanHooser concurred, telling Yahoo! Shine."I've been a licensed cosmetologist for 8 years, and I've never waxed a 3-year-old." VanHooser, who co-owns, with her husband, the Alabama-based Tutu Glitz on Tour Pageant System, said the youngest girl she has waxed was a still-young 10. But, she added, "Sometimes people use eyebrow razors that are not harmful, and a much better alternative to waxing."
Such early-in-life beauty obsessions, experts told us, can cause plenty of negative repercussions.
One consequence is that it teaches young girls "to value themselves based on how they look instead of who they are," explained Diane Levin, early childhood education professor at Boston's Wheelock College and co-author of So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and How Parents Can Protect Their Kids. "This plugs right into how young children think; they focus on what they can see and not what lies underneath."
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"Are you developmentally challenged?" "This is sad!!!! She is a little girl!!!!" "You are insane," "That poor baby" and "Shame on you!!!!" were among the comments in response to Abraham's blog post on the social network, Sulia.
In it, the 20-year-old mom, who recently underwent $16,000 worth of plastic surgery to alter her breasts, chin and nose, wrote about how she decided to wax 3-year-old Sophia's "unibrow" because she felt bad for her. When Sophia protested mid-wax, Abraham finished the job by using tweezers on her sleeping child. "I feel like a good mom," she wrote. "Other moms tell me your ideas!"
"It's very easy to vilify this young mom, and what I think we might focus on instead is how to provide support to all moms about what's appropriate at different stages of development," Child Mind Institute psychologist Rachel Busman told Yahoo! Shine. "I understand a parent's desire to have their child look good and fit in. So I try to look at the best intentions."
On the other hand, she added, "There seems to be more of a focus on children's appearances at a younger and younger age, and I think that is concerning."
Busman also noted that Abraham is not an aesthetician, and that young Sophia's skin could have been burned by the wax. "It can be a painful experience," she said, "especially for a child who doesn't know what's happening."
Pageant mom Lisa VanHooser concurred, telling Yahoo! Shine."I've been a licensed cosmetologist for 8 years, and I've never waxed a 3-year-old." VanHooser, who co-owns, with her husband, the Alabama-based Tutu Glitz on Tour Pageant System, said the youngest girl she has waxed was a still-young 10. But, she added, "Sometimes people use eyebrow razors that are not harmful, and a much better alternative to waxing."
Such early-in-life beauty obsessions, experts told us, can cause plenty of negative repercussions.
One consequence is that it teaches young girls "to value themselves based on how they look instead of who they are," explained Diane Levin, early childhood education professor at Boston's Wheelock College and co-author of So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and How Parents Can Protect Their Kids. "This plugs right into how young children think; they focus on what they can see and not what lies underneath."
Click on link for the rest of the article
http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/learn-teen-mom-waxed-3-olds-eyebrows-202200129.html
"When former "Teen Mom" star Farrah Abraham proudly blogged about waxing and tweezing her 3-year-old daughter Sophia's eyebrows......" This explains alot.
Times are definitely changing I suppose. What we once viewed as "unthinkable" is "thinkable."
Definitely bizaare.
Perhaps this psychologist Rachel Busman can offer her services.
Times are definitely changing I suppose. What we once viewed as "unthinkable" is "thinkable."
Definitely bizaare.
Perhaps this psychologist Rachel Busman can offer her services.
Oh, thanks for explaining. I'm feeling really sorry for that babies future if someone doesn't intervene. Its normal for teens to have mom as an enemy at these ages, then they grow up a bit and usually have a close relationship. Lets hope for the babies sake that this will be the case here.
"Im not getting exactly why one would want to wax their three year olds eyebrows?"
It because her daughter supposedly had a unibrow...
"Is there a mother figure in this young moms life? It doesn't sound like it."
Well this particular girl was on a show called Teen Mom on MTV..Her and her mom do not have a good relationship. The baby's father died in an unfortunate accident...The girl (Farrah) moved to Florida to get away from her mom...
It because her daughter supposedly had a unibrow...
"Is there a mother figure in this young moms life? It doesn't sound like it."
Well this particular girl was on a show called Teen Mom on MTV..Her and her mom do not have a good relationship. The baby's father died in an unfortunate accident...The girl (Farrah) moved to Florida to get away from her mom...
Im not getting exactly why one would want to wax their three year olds eyebrows? Is there a mother figure in this young moms life? It doesn't sound like it. I remember how upset I got when my da had her infant daughters ears pierced not long after birth. My da didn't see anything wrong with it and I thought it should be her daughters decision to make and when. Difference in the generations, but I cannot imagine tweezing and waxing a three year olds eyebrows, not necessarily because it is dangerous, more that it is unheard of! LOL
"So maybe less time criticizing and more time supporting, educating and helping. Then we are giving that little girl and her mother a real shot."
I agree Amanda!
I agree Amanda!
If you truly want to help and support the child (or children), the absolute best thing you can do is support the parents (family). That is a statistically proven fact.
We are so hard on each other as mothers. Did she do a bit of a dumb thing? In my opinion yes. However, it isn't life threatening, or even neglect. In her mind, she was helping her child. So maybe less time criticizing and more time supporting, educating and helping. Then we are giving that little girl and her mother a real shot.
I've done things as a mother that I look back and wonder what I was thinking. Nothing dangerous, or neglectful of my son's needs, but dumb things non the less. I'm glad the world wasn't watching.
We are so hard on each other as mothers. Did she do a bit of a dumb thing? In my opinion yes. However, it isn't life threatening, or even neglect. In her mind, she was helping her child. So maybe less time criticizing and more time supporting, educating and helping. Then we are giving that little girl and her mother a real shot.
I've done things as a mother that I look back and wonder what I was thinking. Nothing dangerous, or neglectful of my son's needs, but dumb things non the less. I'm glad the world wasn't watching.
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