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Spanking Linked to Mental Illness, Says Study
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Spanking and mental illnessAlthough the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) strongly discourages spanking, at least half of parents admit to physically punishing their children. Some research suggests that as many as 70-90 percent of mothers have resorted to spanking at one time or another. A new study published in the journal Pediatrics may cause parents to think more carefully before laying a hand on their little ones.
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Researchers examined data from more than 34,000 adults and found that being spanked significantly increased the risk of developing mental health issues as adults. According to their results, corporal punishment is associated with mood disorders, including depression and anxiety, as well as personality disorders and alcohol and drug abuse. They estimate that as much as 7 percent of adult mental illness may be attributable to childhood physical punishment, including slapping, shoving, grabbing, and hitting. The study reports that spanking ups the risk of major depression by 41 percent, alcohol and drug abuse by 59 percent, and mania by 93 percent, among other findings.
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"We're not talking about just a tap on the bum," study author Tracie Afifi, PhD, of the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, explained in a statement. "We were looking at people who used physical punishment as a regular means to discipline their children." However, the analysis excluded individuals who reported more severe maltreatment such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical neglect, emotional neglect, or exposure to intimate partner violence.
"It definitely points to the direction that physical punishment should not be used on children of any age," said Afifi. Researchers concluded, "It is important for pediatricians and other healthcare providers who work with children and parents to be aware of the link between physical punishment and mental disorders."
The physical punishment of children is legal in the United States, although it is banned in at least 24 other countries. It's worth noting that 19 states also allow corporal punishment in schools. Earlier studies have linked spanking toddlers to increased aggression in older children.
Spare the rod, spare the child?
Despite the research, do you think spanking is okay?
Spanking and mental illnessAlthough the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) strongly discourages spanking, at least half of parents admit to physically punishing their children. Some research suggests that as many as 70-90 percent of mothers have resorted to spanking at one time or another. A new study published in the journal Pediatrics may cause parents to think more carefully before laying a hand on their little ones.
Related: Should Your Child be Spanked at School?
Researchers examined data from more than 34,000 adults and found that being spanked significantly increased the risk of developing mental health issues as adults. According to their results, corporal punishment is associated with mood disorders, including depression and anxiety, as well as personality disorders and alcohol and drug abuse. They estimate that as much as 7 percent of adult mental illness may be attributable to childhood physical punishment, including slapping, shoving, grabbing, and hitting. The study reports that spanking ups the risk of major depression by 41 percent, alcohol and drug abuse by 59 percent, and mania by 93 percent, among other findings.
Watch: Prescription drug abuse on Yahoo! News
"We're not talking about just a tap on the bum," study author Tracie Afifi, PhD, of the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, explained in a statement. "We were looking at people who used physical punishment as a regular means to discipline their children." However, the analysis excluded individuals who reported more severe maltreatment such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical neglect, emotional neglect, or exposure to intimate partner violence.
"It definitely points to the direction that physical punishment should not be used on children of any age," said Afifi. Researchers concluded, "It is important for pediatricians and other healthcare providers who work with children and parents to be aware of the link between physical punishment and mental disorders."
The physical punishment of children is legal in the United States, although it is banned in at least 24 other countries. It's worth noting that 19 states also allow corporal punishment in schools. Earlier studies have linked spanking toddlers to increased aggression in older children.
Spare the rod, spare the child?
Despite the research, do you think spanking is okay?
Discipline comes from love and means to teach. Abuse comes from anger and frustration and lack of coping skills. I agree Mrs. and the others...there is a huge difference.
" I tore my Kid’s Butts Up. They knew their Daddy loved them, would protect them, provide for them, and would whoop that A$$ when needed. None of them has never been in trouble with the Law, Drugs (probably experimented), and are productive members of society. All 3 love and hold me in the utmost respect. We had a “get together” on the 4th and they started telling stories, laughing about it."
Brings me back to what I said about there being a difference between discipline and abuse..R just sumed it up and this is what I call Discipline.... I so agreee with you R.
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Brings me back to what I said about there being a difference between discipline and abuse..R just sumed it up and this is what I call Discipline.... I so agreee with you R.
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and Mike,
You make very very important points. Much more important then so many realize. One of the things we have learned is that you can work with the child as much as you want in order to try to stop the cycle. But the real benefits come when we work with the entire family unit. All the counseling in the world is no good if the parents are not also part of the solution. It's amazing to me how many parents I meet who truly love their children and believe they are doing the right thing. They honestly don't understand that they are behaving in a neglectful and/or abusive manner. It's generational so much of the time. So much of the new programming is around the entire family, and very early intervention. I know we try to get to moms (and dads) during pregnancy now, where we used to begin where there was an actual problem. But for so many who grew up this way, getting to them during pregnancy is the time! It's making a huge difference. Stopping a cycle that has been ingrained in folks for several generations isn't easy, so the earlier the better.
You make very very important points. Much more important then so many realize. One of the things we have learned is that you can work with the child as much as you want in order to try to stop the cycle. But the real benefits come when we work with the entire family unit. All the counseling in the world is no good if the parents are not also part of the solution. It's amazing to me how many parents I meet who truly love their children and believe they are doing the right thing. They honestly don't understand that they are behaving in a neglectful and/or abusive manner. It's generational so much of the time. So much of the new programming is around the entire family, and very early intervention. I know we try to get to moms (and dads) during pregnancy now, where we used to begin where there was an actual problem. But for so many who grew up this way, getting to them during pregnancy is the time! It's making a huge difference. Stopping a cycle that has been ingrained in folks for several generations isn't easy, so the earlier the better.
all too often the abused becomes the abuser and the victim the victimizer.
I think you're right and I believe that over parenting or under parenting can both be a real problem.
I had a group of friends that were from one family. The family was plagued with alcoholic parents. These kids were grounded, but a little bit feral... if you will. There was plenty of love in this family, but no parenting what so ever. 3 of the kids knew no boundaries and subsequently ended up in prison. 1 of the remaining 2 ended up pregnant 2 times before 16 and the one I was closest too suffered from severe anxiety. In fact, he still does today. His only complaint about his childhood was that he wasn't parented.... no rules, what so ever.
I had a group of friends that were from one family. The family was plagued with alcoholic parents. These kids were grounded, but a little bit feral... if you will. There was plenty of love in this family, but no parenting what so ever. 3 of the kids knew no boundaries and subsequently ended up in prison. 1 of the remaining 2 ended up pregnant 2 times before 16 and the one I was closest too suffered from severe anxiety. In fact, he still does today. His only complaint about his childhood was that he wasn't parented.... no rules, what so ever.
My husband and his brother told stories yesterday of when their dad made them go out and pic switches off a tree and if they didn't bring back a strong one, he'd go get them himself and if they broke while whipping them with it, he'd pull out his belt and whip them with that. They weren't laughing though.
I'm not a believer in spanking but a lot of people do it and their kids are emotionally fine. I just couldn't get past the mixed messages "don't hit. But I'll hit you if I think you deserve it." That was hard for me to rectify.
My FIL went too far. He was a grumpy dad that used force to parent. Yuck. His kids love him but not in that "he's such a sweet old guy" kind of way. More in a "he fathered us" kind of way.
My kids are still young. maybe they will turn out to be hoodlums due to my parenting style. We all probably just try to do the best we can with what feels right.
As to mental illness, I'm sure there are some cases that kids feel so powerless in their lives that it is damaging.
I'm not a believer in spanking but a lot of people do it and their kids are emotionally fine. I just couldn't get past the mixed messages "don't hit. But I'll hit you if I think you deserve it." That was hard for me to rectify.
My FIL went too far. He was a grumpy dad that used force to parent. Yuck. His kids love him but not in that "he's such a sweet old guy" kind of way. More in a "he fathered us" kind of way.
My kids are still young. maybe they will turn out to be hoodlums due to my parenting style. We all probably just try to do the best we can with what feels right.
As to mental illness, I'm sure there are some cases that kids feel so powerless in their lives that it is damaging.
I tore my Kid’s Butts Up. They knew their Daddy loved them, would protect them, provide for them, and would whoop that A$$ when needed. None of them has never been in trouble with the Law, Drugs (probably experimented), and are productive members of society. All 3 love and hold me in the utmost respect. We had a “get together” on the 4th and they started telling stories, laughing about it.
The more I think about it the more I can make the connection that spankings can be linked to mental illness.
I will agree with el. There is a big difference between "spankings" and "beatings". I know that I was spanked a few times and got the $hit kicked out of me a few times, growing up. I understood where the spankings came from and just might have learned something from them... maybe. (At least I didn't repeat the behavior....) The beatings came out of left field and I never knew the purpose behind them. In fact, they served nothing. I don't know if my father was trying to get me to respect him or what.
If that was his intention, it failed miserably. I did respect my father on some levels, not too much on others.
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I will agree with el. There is a big difference between "spankings" and "beatings". I know that I was spanked a few times and got the $hit kicked out of me a few times, growing up. I understood where the spankings came from and just might have learned something from them... maybe. (At least I didn't repeat the behavior....) The beatings came out of left field and I never knew the purpose behind them. In fact, they served nothing. I don't know if my father was trying to get me to respect him or what.
If that was his intention, it failed miserably. I did respect my father on some levels, not too much on others.
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I am most definately not a big believer in polls. I think they can be easily manipulated to show the results you are looking for...it all depends on how you word the questions right?
All that being said, I will say that I am not a believer in physical punishment for children. We don't spank or hit (although I do not believe spanking is the same as beating or abuse, just so I am clear). I just believe it sends the wrong message and it's just not right for us. I have spanked once. It was actually a swat on the butt in a moment of absolute fear on my part. For me, it was more a loss of control on my part and wasn't really a correct way to handle the issue (he ran out into our back alley way with a car coming and scared me to death) and did not teach him anything. It was completely reactionary on my part. Just my opinion.
All that being said, I will say that I am not a believer in physical punishment for children. We don't spank or hit (although I do not believe spanking is the same as beating or abuse, just so I am clear). I just believe it sends the wrong message and it's just not right for us. I have spanked once. It was actually a swat on the butt in a moment of absolute fear on my part. For me, it was more a loss of control on my part and wasn't really a correct way to handle the issue (he ran out into our back alley way with a car coming and scared me to death) and did not teach him anything. It was completely reactionary on my part. Just my opinion.
Well, I'm glad we agree on polls~lol.
If you noticed, I didn't mention what I thought of the poll.
Years ago I read a book about how to lie with statistics. Then I read about how polls can be manipulated by who is asked, in what area or even neighborhood of particular city, etc.
So, I tend to take them all with a grain of salt.
BTW: Have you ever been polled ? I haven't.
If you noticed, I didn't mention what I thought of the poll.
Years ago I read a book about how to lie with statistics. Then I read about how polls can be manipulated by who is asked, in what area or even neighborhood of particular city, etc.
So, I tend to take them all with a grain of salt.
BTW: Have you ever been polled ? I haven't.
I never had to spank my kids in order to get them to respect me. There are much better ways to change a child's behavior.
Yeah, here's some better stuff that goes with that story. The cops pull up the the dads work to interview/arrest him depending on the interview with the child. One deputy is interviewing the father and a couple of miles away another deputy is interviewing the child.
Both stories are completely aligned. The child showed absolutely no sign of injury. (one of the 2 accounts said the father was strangling the child) Obviously, they did a physical exam on the child and it proved nothing.
They said that it was too ironic that the parents and childs story was so similar and that the father must have "coached the child" as to what to say.
The father had no previous record, in fact had never even had as much as a speeding ticket. The child told the police that he "had been screwing up a bit lately and his dad had enough of it".
The thing finally got throw out of court because of the conflicting "eye witness" accounts, and the fact that both people completely recanted their stories of the event....
In the mean time, the family was forced to be split up until the court case. The attorney fees were astronomical and set the family way back on their heels and the families reputation is marred....
The bottom line is, you have to even watch what you say to your kids, the tone of voice you use, and you cannot parent in public... I guess.
Both stories are completely aligned. The child showed absolutely no sign of injury. (one of the 2 accounts said the father was strangling the child) Obviously, they did a physical exam on the child and it proved nothing.
They said that it was too ironic that the parents and childs story was so similar and that the father must have "coached the child" as to what to say.
The father had no previous record, in fact had never even had as much as a speeding ticket. The child told the police that he "had been screwing up a bit lately and his dad had enough of it".
The thing finally got throw out of court because of the conflicting "eye witness" accounts, and the fact that both people completely recanted their stories of the event....
In the mean time, the family was forced to be split up until the court case. The attorney fees were astronomical and set the family way back on their heels and the families reputation is marred....
The bottom line is, you have to even watch what you say to your kids, the tone of voice you use, and you cannot parent in public... I guess.
In front of the high school, the dad grabbed his kid by the shoulders and said, "Now is the time that you quit Fuc**** up and start paying attention! Now is the time that you quit lying!!!" Do you understand me!"
"Eye witness accounts" said this was "the most violent act they'd ever seen" and that the father "dragged the child out of the vehicle by their hair". Neither of which happened and the father got arrested for child abuse.... a felony.
This is why so many kids are the way they are...they have no fear of their parents...Absolutely rediculos that his dad was arrested....
"Eye witness accounts" said this was "the most violent act they'd ever seen" and that the father "dragged the child out of the vehicle by their hair". Neither of which happened and the father got arrested for child abuse.... a felony.
This is why so many kids are the way they are...they have no fear of their parents...Absolutely rediculos that his dad was arrested....
Corporal punishment.... I've spanked each of my kids 1 time, 2 max. My opinion on corporal punishment has either evolved or devolved.... I'm not so sure which.
I think it works in some situations with some kids. There are probably more effective ways to deal with punishment. As in school, if your kid is screwing around, he/she should be tossed from school until mom and dad can reel little missy or junior in. Parents do have a responsibility to make sure their kids are behaving.... if not, they can deal with it and should be expected to deal with it.
As for a quick back hand across the mouth.... highly ill advised! Especially not in public.
I know a family that was devastated by a level of discipline. This was a good family with 2 teens. One teen was testing the waters and trying to see what they could get away with. The kid was getting caught every single time and it ramped up to a level where the father had enough of the disrespect and the lying.
In front of the high school, the dad grabbed his kid by the shoulders and said, "Now is the time that you quit Fuc**** up and start paying attention! Now is the time that you quit lying!!!" Do you understand me!"
"Eye witness accounts" said this was "the most violent act they'd ever seen" and that the father "dragged the child out of the vehicle by their hair". Neither of which happened and the father got arrested for child abuse.... a felony.
I think it works in some situations with some kids. There are probably more effective ways to deal with punishment. As in school, if your kid is screwing around, he/she should be tossed from school until mom and dad can reel little missy or junior in. Parents do have a responsibility to make sure their kids are behaving.... if not, they can deal with it and should be expected to deal with it.
As for a quick back hand across the mouth.... highly ill advised! Especially not in public.
I know a family that was devastated by a level of discipline. This was a good family with 2 teens. One teen was testing the waters and trying to see what they could get away with. The kid was getting caught every single time and it ramped up to a level where the father had enough of the disrespect and the lying.
In front of the high school, the dad grabbed his kid by the shoulders and said, "Now is the time that you quit Fuc**** up and start paying attention! Now is the time that you quit lying!!!" Do you understand me!"
"Eye witness accounts" said this was "the most violent act they'd ever seen" and that the father "dragged the child out of the vehicle by their hair". Neither of which happened and the father got arrested for child abuse.... a felony.
Hahahaha.....Good one!
There's a HUGE difference between "spanking" and "beating".
I was spanked as a child, and about the only thing wrong with me now, is the fact that I'm a Republican.
I guess my parents spanked the stupid out of me!!!
I was spanked as a child, and about the only thing wrong with me now, is the fact that I'm a Republican.
I guess my parents spanked the stupid out of me!!!
They only polled 34,000 people. This isn't a good sample.
Until they poll the entire population of the planet, and gather data from every living man, woman & child on earth, I won't buy into these silly "polls".
Garbage.
Until they poll the entire population of the planet, and gather data from every living man, woman & child on earth, I won't buy into these silly "polls".
Garbage.
Although I swatted a few butts now and then, I never thought of it as punishment.
It was like clapping your hands loud to get the kid's attention or yelling "NO."
Punishment was being sent to their room, having privileges restricted, etc.
I do believe kids need to learn there are consequences to their actions.
Consequences should be appropriate to the offense.
Discipline is important because it teaches self discipline.
It was like clapping your hands loud to get the kid's attention or yelling "NO."
Punishment was being sent to their room, having privileges restricted, etc.
I do believe kids need to learn there are consequences to their actions.
Consequences should be appropriate to the offense.
Discipline is important because it teaches self discipline.
For me, spanking didn't work with my son. It got to a point where he expected to get spanked and would just be like "ok mommy get it over with"..(Maybe I didn't do it hard enough...lol....Just kidding)
I find time out and taking things he likes away from him being more effective. I am for spanking (Not beating the $hit out of your kid) though because sometimes kids need a good back hand every now and then when they think their $hit don't stink.....You better believe if my son or daughter ever talked to me in a desrespectful mannor or even attempt to call me out of my name, he/she will get a nice back hand to the mouth. Let someone tell me I'm wrong for that.....
I find time out and taking things he likes away from him being more effective. I am for spanking (Not beating the $hit out of your kid) though because sometimes kids need a good back hand every now and then when they think their $hit don't stink.....You better believe if my son or daughter ever talked to me in a desrespectful mannor or even attempt to call me out of my name, he/she will get a nice back hand to the mouth. Let someone tell me I'm wrong for that.....
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