Who is my baby's daddy?

[crazycurious11]

Okay so many of y'all know my situation and are all probably annoyed by all of my questions, lol I'm sorry I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and I need help. The first day of my LMP was Feb 23, I had sex with my bf on March 3rd and he finished inside me. (I make it clear that we were not together at the time but we were before our break up in a 3 year fully committed relationship) then after we had sex we stopped talking again and me being hurt and all I've always been the type that feels better with attention (I hate that about myself but my dad never gave me the attention I needed from a man) anyways, I slept with another guy on March 9th (my supposed ovulation day) then a month later I find out I'm pregnant so of course the first person I tell is my ex (now bf) because he was the only one that came to mind and he automatically thought it was his and asked no questions and I myself believed it until his mom asked for a DNA test since I had hurt him once before and he decided to put it behind us and keep strong but she still never forgot, I don't blame her. I never cheated though it was something else. So I guess then the other guy came back to mind and I been freaking out. So according to numbers I was wondering if each of yall who are willing if yall can do the math (I've already done it myself) but tell me what yall get. In all honesty PLEASE. like I said I had sex with my bf March 3rd and sex with the other guy March 9th, my LMP was Feb 23 (I'm not sure when it ended because I can't really tell when my period ends Idk if I count the brown left over blood or just the heavy days) and I've only jotted down my last 3 periods which have been Dec 25 Jan 25 and Feb 23 I'm not sure if those numbers are needed but your answers will definitely help in my decision on what to do. So please be honest with what you get, who's my baby daddy? Thanks in advance.

[Emily_MHManager]

Hi Ladies -

Let's remember that this is a support site, and crazycurious11 is asking about paternity, not abortion.  It's okay to give a little "tough love", but the use of negative words like "dumb" and "selfish" are not appropriate.  She is neither of these things, or she wouldn't be on our site asking for help.

We are neutral on the topic of abortion, being neither pro-choice or right-to-life.  We understand that the topic elicits strong reactions, but whatever your personal feelings are, please make sure that you have correct information.  

Please be careful to not blame, shame or guilt other members.  She wouldn't be here asking questions if she were not torn up about this already.

Emily

[smiley_one]

I'm thrilled to hear you are keeping your baby :) I never felt a real attachment with my baby until after I started feeling her move around. Then it set in that I was having a baby and the attachment started. Good luck with everyhting

[crazycurious11]

Thank you, you all have made me make up my mind. I am going to keep my baby and just give it the best I can and anyone in my life who are willing to help and support me are welcome and the ones that walk away never loved me in the first place. If my bf leaves me it will hurt like hell but my baby deserves life because these are my problems to deal with not his/hers. :( its just hard because I don't feel a baby I don't feel attached I just feel like throwing up all the time and its hard putting something that's not here yet before myself, because its always been just me but I guess now its me and my baby. I'm happy with my decision because everything will turn out for the best not only that, I believe in the love me and my bf share and I believe its real and that he will accept this baby simply because he loves me and if not oh well like most of yall said Ill have my baby.

[Hot_chocolate]

Hi there... Deciding whether to keep your child because you are unsure of the father is very sad.  Since I've been pregnant I've done a lot of research while im pregnant. There is an alarming number of women who can't conceive, had several miscarriage and would love to get pregnant more than anything.  Not sure if you are aware but after an abortion your chances of conceiving again  is slim.  I'm not sure what your financial situation is like but if you have to do it alone so be it....you'll have you little bundle of joy.  Life doesn't always turn out as we plan. You may decide to terminate the pregnancy and later can conceive. You may decide to keep the child hoping its your bf's and it end up being and you guys split up down the road.  You're  very fortunate that the other guy will be supportive.  Hang on to what youve got.

[crazycurious11]

Thank you all and yes I will possibly do the CVS

[stacey10]

I would be going with your b/f as well, and I still think if your going to have a dna test done and then abort if its noty your b/f you should have the cvs done as late abortions ie 16+ wks  are just awful