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mandy876

I have been with you for a while now. I feel that I am not getting better. today was a bad day. I cant seem to pull myself together. I am quitting medhelp. I will miss all of my sweet friends, I just don't feel like talking any more. im just so tired and don't want to even think about what I am going through. thanks for being there for me. good luck to all of you and the best of health. I don't know what to do. good luck.

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Oh Mandy,  I am so glad that we were able to share together.  It is so hard to lose people that you love.  You were a great treasure to your mother.  And you were a very great daughter to her.  I told my mother again and again, that she must be with me after she died.  I think that she is. You will laugh at the reason why I think that she is.  When I was terribly grief stricken and appealed to my dead grandmother about 20 years ago, I heard an answer that I would not have thought of in a million years and it was so offensive to me, that I thought that it must be from my grandmother.  When I told my mother about it, she said that her mother, my grandmother had always had bad timing.  LOL.  But that convinced me that the dead are with us, although I've never had any sightings or conversations with my mother as a lot of people do, but they don't talk about it.

The love from the people we love though, stays in our spirits.  I can't find my copy of Kahlil Gibran's, "The Prophet" book.  But it says something like, Look deep into your heart at your sadness, and know that it is really a mirror of the joy that you had previously.

I also have been on Effexor and had to raise it when my depression got terrible, which cleared it up.  Now I am on its upgraded version, Pristiq.  But I know that I need to take it for the rest of my life.  I feel for you. I know it is very hard.  But I really hope that you can find some more peace in your life.    Sara

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jemma116

Sorry if I upset anyone with regard to Effexor information.  The information is on their website.

I am glad that it is helping a lot of people.  I had considered asking my doctor to try me on this, but I already suffer from hypertension, so it may not suit me.

I did not understand what "abilify" was.  At first I thought it was a misspelling of a word.  But now do realise that it must be some form of medication.

Hope you are all keeping as well as can be.

Best wishes.

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sara12345

That's a reasonable concern to be concerned about side effects. The only way you will know is if you try the medication. And I would suggest that you start off very slowly. If the medication is NOT an extended release form, then you could start off with half the pill. Ask the pharmacist who can tell you for sure. You should be on extended release Effexor pills for the best outcome. You can tell that by the XR listed after Effexor. But many pills are dividable.

If you do get side effects, such as nausea, it can pass with time. I'm having that trouble right now with one of my medications which the doctor said to divide up into quarters and to take it more often to spread out the effects. But keep in my mind that you are getting very bad "side effects" from your depression, so it's worth trying a new medication to try to offset your terrible loneliness and sadness. Good luck and let me know.
Love, Sara

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mandy876

I don't have to worry about gaining weight I weigh 91lbs. my doctor wants me to gain weight. the abilify puts weight on you. but I worry about the side effects. my niece wants me to go on them. she was on them and gained weight what she is on now she has lost about 50 lbs. I am so lucky to have some good friends. thank you. your friend mandy876

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sara12345

Mandy,  You never lost me as your friend.  I was the one who felt hurt at you saying that I was no longer your friend.  I am very glad to be your friend.

If your doctor has recommended that you add Abilify, I would do it.  A lot of times, it can take a boost from the Abilify to get better from depression.  My mother was on Effexor until she died at age 88.  She was the happiest that she was ever was, even though she was in hospice because she finally was given a higher dose of Effexor.  It does NOT need careful observation of it.  My mother was treated by a highly prestigious major University medical system.  I am 61 and don't need any special observation of the doses either.  I, my mother, and two friends never had any weight gain from taking Effexor. It sounds like you are concerned about weight gain.  I wouldn't be, especially since you are having trouble eating very much from you wrote before.  And even if you did gain a few pounds, wouldn't it be worth it to feel good again?
Your friend,  Sara

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shinty

I read this entire post and am blown away at the kindness, thoughtfulness, and sharing that I encountered. It's refreshing to see this kind of support and to complete strangers in some cases! I'm not in this community much, but think it's one of the best anyone could ever hope to find. Keep on doing what you guys are doing.
shinty

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jemma116

Probiotics are contained in natural yogurt.  You can also purchase capsules of probiotics.  These are the good bacteria that we need inside our guts to keep us well and healthy.

The only Boost that I know of is a yummy toffee chocolate bar.  But I am in the UK.  I just fancy some now :)

If you are on Effexor, you should be closely monitored by your doctor and if they are not working for you, then you need to make an appointment and see your doctor about it.  It has to be used with caution in the elderly.

Effexor does not suit everyone and some people do get side effects from them.  Gaining weight is one of the side effects and there are other side effects too.

Please go and see your doctor and ask him to do a blood test for anaemia and Vitamin B12 deficiency.  Discuss with your doctor your anti-depressant dosages and ask to be referred to Bereavement Counselling.

Best wishes.

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