I feel incredibly stupid writing on here, but anyway...
I am a 20 year old female, I think I may have some form of depression and/or anxiety disorder but I’ve been denying having any issues at all until I’m blue in the face, much to the annoyance of my boyfriend and mother.
I am a nursing student (slightly ironic I suppose) and for the past 18 months I feel like I have changed... I am simply not myself anymore, I feel as though my life has sort of crumbled all around me and I’m trying to stick all of the pieces back together whilst more collapses.
I used to be an out-going, fun-loving girl, I loved to laugh and make others laugh. I was never afraid of a challenge or scared to try new things. I was always slightly more of a worrier than most (from a young age) but only about rational things such as upcoming exams etc. I was also a terrible nail biter and a bit of a pessimist, but I had always been that way.
However about 18 months ago I started feeling a little low and just a bit “out of sorts”... this lasted for about 3 or 4 months and I simply assumed it was because I was starting a new course, a new city etc. However I then went on to have my first panic attack (I didn’t realise this was what it was at the time though). They became more frequent and I would often have mini ones everyday and a major one every week/10 days. I began to feel incredibly nauseous and would often vomit. This was accompanied by becoming very tearful for no reason and the “low feeling” became 100 times worse. I would often have to run out of lectures to vomit. However after about 4 months, the panic attacks went away... BUT I feel I have been left with almost a constant feeling of panic/worry/unease.
I tend to panic “internally” and quietly to myself, as in if you didn’t know me you probably wouldn’t notice... however my boyfriend and mother found it very noticeable. I often begin to hyperventilate (4/5 times a day) and end up taking excessively deep breaths to avoid this + avoid drawing attention to myself. I also constantly have heart palpitations and a racing heartbeat; it never tends to drop below 90bpm. This is very uncomfortable.
About 8 months ago this panic became irrational, which is incredibly frustrating as I am aware I am being ridiculous, but the compulsions are too strong. For example, firstly I stopped eating meat for fear of getting food poisoning, as well as nuts for fear of anaphylactic shock (however I have never ever been allergic to nuts... go figure) recently I have had difficulty swallowing as I feel there is a possibility I will choke. A headache becomes a stroke, a leg pain becomes a blood clot, and a chest pain becomes a heart attack or pulmonary embolism. (** Just to inform you I know these thoughts are completely irrational and crazy, but at the time I simply cannot control them, no matter how hard I try)
I constantly have a lump in my throat and I often cry. I have also begun washing my hands/using alcohol gel excessively, I kind of blame my course for that though.
Over the past 3 months this has lessened in severity somewhat, however it always seems to be replaced with something else. I am still very tearful, I had hoped going home for 4 weeks would get rid of all of this horrendously ridiculous behaviour, but unfortunately it has not. I am exhausted, I have no energy, and I have no time for anyone or anything. I have sleeping issues, I am either awake for 60 hours straight because I simply can’t shut my brain up (I am either having conversations with myself/other people in my head, or I just can’t stop thinking about what I’m doing tomorrow, the next day, next week, next month etc it torments me, I will just be about to fall asleep when suddenly something else pops into my head, it is infuriating and incredibly distressing). On the opposite end of the spectrum I also go through phases where I will not get out of bed for days at a time, and I will be sleeping for the majority of that time (just to clarify this is still whilst having the panicky issue). I almost seem to go into a sort of trance.
I have no self-respect or self-worth, my personal hygiene (apart from washing my hands) has gone out of the window. I do not care what I look like, I cannot be bothered. I often simply stick clothes on over my pyjamas.
I have lost all contact with my friends from back home, and to be honest, I kind of couldn’t care less. My current flatmates I can easily go for a week without seeing any of them. I do not socialise, I just don’t want to. I no longer enjoy the simple things that used to make me so happy. Even my boyfriend (who has been amazing) doesn’t necessarily make me feel happy; things just seem like a lighter shade of grey I suppose. We have been together since before all of this, he feels I have changed and desperately need help. We have no sex life, I can’t even bear for him to touch me innocently (hug me etc); it makes me feel claustrophobic and sick to my stomach. I often say cruel things to hurt him and I am not entirely sure why I do this, I know he would be far better off without me.
I have lost all motivation. I feel like I have lost the person I was and no matter how hard I look or how hard I try, she is never coming back. I feel a little like an empty shell that is simply going through the motions of living.
I am not so teary anymore, I just feel so constantly exhausted and apathetic, I am always in some form of pain, be it back ache, head ache, nausea, stomach ache, chest pain. I have been hospitalised twice in the past 6 months, once for a kidney infection and once for pneumonia. I feel as if I just do not function anymore... I feel a little broken. I do not have what I would perceive to be suicidal thoughts; however I do think that things would be so much easier if I could just cease to exist, or if my existence had never come about at all, or if I could just fall asleep and either not wake up for a very long time or never wake up at all.
And yet I still deny the fact that I would seem to maybe have a problem. I am worried about the disappointment and shame I will bring to my family if I do have some form of issue, I am also worried about being kicked off my course... a mentally ill nursing student... how am I supposed to look after others when I can’t even look after myself...?
Help, advice, comments, questions all appreciated... I think I just maybe needed to write this all down.
Thank you and I apologise for the length.