Dealing with death for first time

[LukeL]

I am 23 years old and for the first time in my life someone close to me has died. Back on April 13th of last year (it was a friday) I found out my dad had cirrhosis and only 6 months to 1 year to live. The next day I discovered a good friend from highschool had died on the very same day.

She always went out of her way to say hi and make me feel special, I do not know if she was just being nice or if it went deeper.  She was also the only girl to ever really talk to me and in someway just a few kind words from her could brighten up my day.

While I am dealing with this, I am taking care of my father who is basically on a path to self destruction with his continued drinking. He died on August 14th of last year and it seems I have been blocking all of this out untill now.

I was wondering what some of you, who have dealt with this would reccomend I do.

[jo929]

I know that you are having a hard time coping with these things i myself have lost a mom then a daughter abd sis and it will take time to go through the greiving process and it is not an easy thing to do, but in time you will heal i did not have asuppot group as i live in the country and there are no support groups here but they could help you i know i cried for so long but the main thing i think that saved me was my work i had to get up and go to work so if you go to sc hool dont miss it also try to make freinds if you dont have any do keep busy and things will get easier in time you will remember but the pain will lessen solisten to Venora maybe a support group will help you my heart goes out to you i know the feeling one must just go on with life and you are young so try to look to the future i am not saying dont greive you will greive but in time it may not hurt so bad  lots of luck to you           jo

[Venora Moonwind]

it would be good to get some grief counsesling and maybe visit the grief forum to share your experience. I know my dad was self destructive and died at a very young age and I was very angry with him for a while for leaving my mom in dire striaghts and for not taking better care of himslef so he could be with us longer. I went to alot of therapy to work through this and I am ok  and I miss my dad alot.
good luck to you
Love Venora