Depression help

[fishermens_wife]

I need help, I cant seem to talk to anyone I know because I feel stuipid. I had a baby nearly two years ago, I got really bad postnatal depression and I seem to of just gotten worse over time. I hate my life, am only 21 my man is off at the fishing and I feel like am stuck at home like a 40 year old with no life, working and looking after everything. I hate my partner being at the fishing I love my baby but hate having a baby, I am always so grumpy and if my man goes on a night or two on the **** it sends me over the wall while am stuck in! I cry almost everyday and usually dont know why and I know am not myself and it makes me worse because I used to be such a happy go friendly person, now I dont even like myself as company! P.S I TOTALLY HATE MY PARTNER BEING AWAY AT THE FISHING and it makes me worse everytime he goes. I need help, I was offered medication after the baby but I didnt like that idea.

[birdie0907]

I am confused. Is he a fisherman by vocation, or is this fishing a hobby?

[babypooh]

I think you should talk to you husband about this.  He needs to be supportive of you and your depression.  Does he leave often to go fishing?  If he does, then tell him to please keep his trips to a minimum because your son is his too and he should be there with you to take care of him like the family that you are.  He shouldn't leave and assume you have it under control.  I understand how frustrating it can be.  I know you're young, but you're old enough to have a family and take care of it.  Why do you hate having a baby?  Do you feel that you didn't get a chance to go out with friends?  That whole partying thing gets old and you can actually still go out with friends.  I have a 4 year old and still find time to meet with friends after I put him to bed a few times a month.  You just need to find a balance.  Keep writing when you feel stressed.  It helps.  Or talk to a friend.  Most importantly, talk to your husband about it.  You're his wife and he needs to support you.

[proudmom87]

hello i am sorry you are feeling this way. I suffered from ppd after i had my second child and i am still taking zoloft i love my kids to death. But i went thou hell and back after i had my second son. You can message me anytime and talk.. Either on here or on  yahoo messager damddrewsgirl4ever hope to hear from you soon

take care

becky

[Isabel81]

Do you have a regular doctor?  Or maybe your OB/GYN or whomever delivered the baby?  I would recommend telling your doctor about this and seeing what he/she says.  Maybe your doc knows a psychiatrist you could talk to.  Sometimes talking is all it takes, and it will certainly help to have someone you can tell these things to (writing in a journal can help a lot too).  I understand your not wanting to take meds.  Sometimes they help, and sometimes they don't.  It depends on the person and the situation.  They might be worth trying.  The most important thing is to DO SOMETHING to treat this and make you feel good again, and talking to a doctor you already know is a solid step in that direction.  Working through depression is hard, but if really you want to feel like yourself again and not be depressed and hating life, I'm sure you'll find your way.  Good luck.