Just married..Help me please !!!!!!!

[Vigu772]

Hi,

I'm 26 year old healthy person, just got married recently( a week before).

I have never had sex before my marriage- i only used to masterbate(once every day on an avg).
The first time when i had sex with my wife, it was really great- we both enjoyed and we did this couple of time with out using condoms.

However, after  three days, when i tried using condoms, my eriction  didn't last long,
half way during the intercourse, my penis looses it's eriction , not sure why....

So now, i've got into a fear that something is worng with me- and due to this feeling crippling in my mind- i'm not getting erection at all, even when i see my wife nude...!!! i started crying and crying .... :-(

I then tried to masterbate when my wife wasn't around- however i did get eriction like before( the way i used to masterbate thinking of the porn movies)-- but when i try to have sex, i do not get erection... nor i'm feeling to have sex... i some how seriously believe that these are happening because of phychological feelings....

Also,  i was doping regurlarly , however i've stopped it recently and now i dope very occasionally...

I need to know :

How do i identify what is wrong with me ?
Since i'm getting erection when i try to masterbate- is that i feel masterbating is better than sex ???

Or is it because i used to dope ???

Can you please suggest the doctor ( not sure what term they use for these kind of specialists ) ?
and finally, is it cureable ??

I'm really worried , would appreciate you feedback asap ....!!

Thanks,
V

[palpateit]

Did you use porn while masturbating consistently up until your marriage?

A common occurence these days is Porn-Induced ED. The combination of internet nporn and fast, strong masturbation desentizes the BRAIN.

The inability to get excited by a real-life sexual partner is called copulatory impotence. On our recovery forums, we have men in their teens with porn-induced ED.

Internet porn can become an addiction, and with all addictions the brain changes, or adapts. It does not matter if the addiction is to a substance or whether it is a behavioral addiction, the same brain changes result.

Today's internet porn is nothing at all like our ancestors ever encountered, with the constant novelty and genres of extreme porn. Unlike yesterday's Playboy, Internet porn overstimulates the brain structures responsible for libido, erections, and addiction.

Brain changes include a drop in dopamine receptors in the reward circuitry. Reducing the amount of dopamine receptors decreases your pleasure response to "normal" stimuli. In other words, real-life sexual partners and previous porn won't excite your brain enough to get your penis going. Turning on dopamine receptors is how you get turned on.

Here are two excellent presentations, by a science teacher, on the effects of pornography on the brain. They are non-religious, non-judgmental, and science based.

Erectile Dysfunction and Porn:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/erectile-dysfunction-and-porn

Your Brain on Porn - Porn Addiction:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

Here are two articles on porn-induced ED

“How I Recovered from Porn-related Erectile Dysfunction”
http://yourbrainonporn.com/how-i-recovered-from-porn-related-erectile-dysfunction

As Porn Goes Up, Performance Goes Down?
http://yourbrainonporn.com/as-porn-goes-up-performance-goes-down

good luck to you,

[maheshmacho]

hi mam
i am regularly reading ur post for differents community members and get satisfied with ur post.
i want to knot that what kind of excercised can male do to delay their ejaculation. i have heared that during urination male can do some simple excercises. but what they are can u tell me the exact procedure. plzzzz.

[maheshmacho]

this is not a problem to worry for because most male suffer from this. this is because the sensitivity of ur penis decreases when u use condom and cant feel the warmth and  frictions inside the vagina. to over come this problem u have to get more n more used of using condom and u will see the results.
bye