will she love me!!!

[dyingdave]

i am a 26 yr old impotent male.
i have recently met a new girl who i really like and she likes me. i dont want out relationship to start on a lie, and i want to tell her about my problem. viagra works in my case but i dont want to take it without telling her.
basically, has anyone told a girl that they were impotent before, and what was that girls' reaction???
plz help

[metalbabe66]

I slept with a guy I really like for the first time yesterday ( I'm 20 female he's 31) and he couldn't keep it up as soon as he entered me. He's below average size and not very experienced (2 girls, both very long term) , but I like him a lot.
He's funny, attractive and a gentleman. After we failed for the 4th time that night he just held me and cuddled me. This is a guy that I'm not in love with (yet), and below 'average' penis size. But I'm not at all bothered that he couldn't have sex with me;actually I can't stop thinking about him, and how I'm going to relax him next time we try.
If its worth it, then tell her.
I don't know if he does have a medical problem, or if its a side affect of anti-depressants (which he claimed), or if I'm the first girl its happened with, or if it was a fluke due to nerves.
I don't care either, I hope he's honest with me, and I hope I see him again soon.
Oh yeah...and theirs very little you can do with a **** that can't be done with fingers tongues and even toys. There is always a way round these things.
Be strong and tell her, good luck. x x x    

[khan55]

No problem,tell and share all problems with your girl friend.ED is now control with medicine easily and no problem and complication occur in whole life.consult with your doctor and get started the real pleasure of life.

[wallstreet714]

I have been with this girl for almost 2 yrs now . We have had a lot of issues so not much time with being intimate. We finally have resolved our issues and have become more intimate. I have ED and was prescribed Viagra 50 mg. It seemed to work and then not so much anymore. The girl began thinking it was her not pleasing me and I shared with her that I have been diabetic for 5 yrs and it has effected me in not being able to keep an erection. It has put a major strain on our relationship now , the past few weeks. She says that she understands but continues to think that she does not turn me on . SPOOKIE, you have made some good points and i agree with you . It seems as if my girl doesnt realize that its already a hard issue for men to cope with . We have to go to the doctor and tell them that we cannot perform. My doctor is a women and it was humiliating enough . It has been really an issue the past few days now and Im really hoping that when i go to the doctor in a few days that I can get prescribed maybe 100 mg of viagra since the 50's are not working for whatever reason. It is so hard though , laying there with her and trying so hard . I think me trying so hard , is really killing it and makes it impossible for me to get an erection. I really love this girl and she says that she loves me but  I know things like this really cause issues for relationships. Especially being that she is 25 yrs old and and Im 35 yrs old. She is so wanting to be active all the time and Im just having an issue. It really does suck. I wonder if anyone thinks that viagra is best or should i try cialis 20 mg ... Right now the viagra 50 mg is just not working now . Does anyone also know if making changes in regulating my sugar levels and eating right, can reverse the effects. I also wondered what everyones take is on horny goat weed. I have been taking two pills daily for the past couple of weeks. I have read many articles where it says that research shows that it is better than viagra in a lot of cases and that it is a possible remedy for the reversal of ed ... Does anyone know .. ???

[Lester_2]

I am woman that has been dating guy for almost a year that has Ed or preformance anxiety. He didn't tell me anything about his problem until we were about 3 months into it and that was when I said maybe he should see a dr. I was hurt that he kept that from me and me not knowing cause me to feel rejected which in turn made it harder to deal with. He still has preformance anxiety or says it's that. I think you need to be upfront and honest! Otherwise you could send both of you into a downward spirl.

[Spookie248]

dyingdave, I'm a female.  And I feel any girl who is in the relationship for all the right reasons will appreciate the truth.  Start by telling her you believe ANY relationship needs to be built on honesty if it is going to survive.  Then just open up to her, she will feel your sincerity (and we love a sincere man!!!!)  There is nothing wrong with letting her know you are experiencing ED problems and have been prescribed Viagra by your doctor.  Let her know this condition of yours pre-existed (BEFORE your relationship with her).  Also, give her permission to 'bail out' of the relationship but let her know that is NOT what you want her to do.  Also, express to her it is your desire to please her in every way possible and if there are times you 'fail' to please her sexually, it was only because it is out of your control.  Share with her that it is your strong desire to gain control over this issue and that you will be looking for solutions.  Remember, if she leaves you because of this, she was not really into you in the first place.  You WILL NOT LOSE what you never had.  If she loves you, she'll stick around.  Good Luck and May God Bless!

[dyingdave]

i am totally with you that i might regret it later, and also that she will probably feel less desired with regards to the viagra!
but i have never told anyone about my problem, and i feel that if i am goin to tell her, then i should be completely honest and let her make up her own mind.
i dont believe there is any point in telling her 50% of the truth.

[metropolis]

That's a tricky question, it's hard to say.

You seem to be a decent guy and it's great that you want to be so frank with your new girlfriend. I applaud that. BUT if I were you, I wouldn't tell her anything about Viagra. You only just met her, it's still too early in your relationship and you may regret it later. Moreover, most women don't like to know that their partners are on Viagra, it makes them feel less desired - even though they really shouldn't feel that way, Viagra is only an erection facilitator and does not improve sexual desire or libido.

If, however, you really trust her and you believe that telling her about your ED problems (if you still have any) can take some pressure off you and consequently improve your performance, go ahead and do it. But I would only tell her about the erection difficulties, not Viagra.

[dyingdave]

thx ryan,
i think i am just goin to tell her. i know deep down that it is the right thing to do, but i am just scared of the rejection.
are you still together with that girl?

[RyanRandolph]

When I started dating my first girlfriend, I was hesitant to have sex with her.  She was crazy with anxiety and thinking there was something wrong with her.  Eventually I told her because I used to take medication that make my erections not as hard and that is why I was hesitant.  She was extremely relieved and compassionate for my situation.  

I think the majority of women will be kind and understanding if you simply say you are working through this health issue.  Women like to be supportive, what they do not like is a man avoiding the issue and trying to hide it, that will be more of a deal-breaker for many women.