i need you. i am devistated.

[boosty]

my world came tumbling down today. my doctor called me and told me that although my blood test for the down syndrome came back negative, the ultrasound showed that my baby at 17weeks have shorter arms and legs and so i have a higher chance of down sundrome and i have to go in on monday for a Amniocentesis . i am broken, in tears and down on life. i cant stop crying.  i dont know what to do.i am thinking so much. they also said the baby is a bit short too.
1. the Amniocentesis can also cause birth defects or miscarriage
2. if they say that my baby has no down syndrome, then why are the arms and legs shorter.
i have a daughter that is waiting anctiously for this baby. i need support, help, and advice. i am broken in a million pieces. its 1:30am and i am sitting here crying myself to death.

[boosty]

please read my last two comments on this post.

[boosty]

if there is an angle , a person much better than i am, that is willing to adopt please dont be afraid to talk to me about it. message me. when it comes to adoption, i want to make sure that he will be adopted and not left and rejected. cause nowadays everyone adopting is picky. why do i feel like i am not welcmoe on this forum anymore? i am just trying to consider eveyrthing and all my options for this child. i have also wanted to help a family in my life , but i too was ttc. so maybe this way, i can. thank you for your support. i am ready to hear all the nasty comments as well now.

[Helen72]

Aborting your pregnancy because of d/s is your personal choice.  Opinions of other people should not enter your decision.  You don't have to justify your choices here or anywhere else.  Again, only you can make that choice.  
I do hope that your baby is OK.  Good luck tomorrow.

[boosty]

thank you for your prayers and comments. i really want to know so i dont stress myself anymore. so tomorrow morning at 8am i have an appointment for an amnio. then i guess the wait starts . so the fish test is sooner? is it accurate? the part that destroys me is that as a child, i grew up knowing my destiny. i knew from the age of 5 years old that one of my children will be  a special need one. isnt that weird?people would laugh when i said thats what i think. and thats why, its hard to think positive. i pray to God that all is ok. my husband and i are having lots of problems now and hes talking devorce. its not because of the pregnancy at all. he also lost his job and its not because of that either. so wihtout judgement whcih i knwo i will get on this forum, there is that slight chance that i might consider that discusting choice of abortion because i cant do this on my own either. so that is one of the reasons that i sit here crying nonstop. because one is that i worry about my child and the other reason is that i dont knwo what will happen when i get the news. then i get that sick website sent to me. anyway, i knwo you guys will let me know your opinions and some will be ugly about it .i dont blame you. i was in your shoes too . we all ttc and now this is what i am thinking? i do think shame on me, but i do think of the future and doing this alone. adoption, i cannot think of my own child somewhere far away from me and one day finding me and looking in his face i have to answer to him that i didnt keep because he was sick? i cant do this. maybe i am talking like this cause i am panicking. i wont knwo how i feel til after i find out whats going on. please dont be ugly cause i already am going through all this in my mind. you all mean so much to me. thank you

[sunshine1990]

I agree with everyone, don't worry.  Dr.s like to do worse case scenerio.  my cousin had her Dr. tell her that her baby girl's arms were not the right length.  She got all upset, had tons of tests and x-rays and then her little girl turned out perfect.

If you are that worried about the amnio, don't have it done!

Will you love the baby any less if it has DS?  I know a couple who have a DS child.  they are actually older than us, the DS child is actually grown now, but she is awesome! One of the sweetest people I know.  she has a very productive life.  She works at the local resource center, they have a great program there.  and her parents wouldn't change her for the world.  


try to relax and not worry about it.  You're in my thoughts and prayers.  take care!  Jen

[abbyloo]

boosty you need all the support in the world when a doctor tells you something like that and you have it right here! just remember every baby is different and will grow and be different in their own time and way. there are so many risks with the amnio and after my doctor told me it would not be necessary for women our age (i'm 25) and that although it is still a possibility for your baby to have down syndrome, remember, everything is a possibility during pregnancy. my af has a clef pallet and his great grandfather had one too but it's still only a 4% chance! Doctors are always over cautious and i don't blame you for freaking out. I mean, we're supposed to believe them and trust their expert advice, but it doesn't mean their right. have faith and we'll keep you and your baby in our prayers!!! god bless!