a little venting

[jennyfer976]

Well i just found out that my sister who wasn't even trying to get pregnant got pregnant and then had a miscarriage and then proceeded not to tell me because i am going thru ivf and so much right now that she thought it would hurt my feelings to know that she had been pregnat and i have not ever gotten to that point. I felt so awful and sorry for her and can't even tell her i know because my mother is the one who told me and my sister didn't want me to know. URGHH. i am just in need of some venting. Tomorrow i go for my retrieval. I am praying all this works for me. i also recently got news 2 of my friends are pregnant. do you think its contagious? I was also not told about them because they thought i would get upset too. WOWOWOWO. i don't even know what to say right now except i hope all this works and i am asking all to pray for me and my sister who just went thru a rough time herself. thanks.

[paranoidpatty]

Oh I didn't catch that in your previous post that your sister miscarried.  Oh wow, that's something to go through.   Maybe your Mom can talk to her and ask if she can tell you so that you can support each other.  But you both hang in there.

Trish

[needababy]

Girl I know how you feel! I think every woman my age in my sunday school class and church has either had a baby in the past year or is currently pregnant! And that is honestly not an exaggeration! We have been pregnant twice and lost both over a year ago and since then nothing. And to make matters worse my brother and his wife didn't want to call and tell me that my nephew was born because I had just had emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy 2 weeks before. And then to add insult to injury, I have been trying really hard to lose weight because I know that affects fertility. Well I have lost almost 25 pounds and some lady asks me today "When is your baby due"! I didn't know whether to cry or curse or just smack her! OK I am sorry this was supposed to be your vent not mine. I guess I am just trying to say I hear ya girl! Hang in there and don't me to upset with those people that are trying to spare your feelings. They just don't know any better.

[jennyfer976]

Thanks, that means a lot to me. I feel a little better every time i realize I am not the only one in the world who watches people get pregnant around me and thinks- will it ever be my turn? Also its good to know you understand how much it hurts when people try to "spare" your feelings. I mean thats my sister! And I love her unconditionally, i would kill for her and to know she went thru something like that and didn't tell me hurts. I am hopeful it will work too! THis is my very first IVF and i am going for retreival tomorrow!! They are estimating 15 good 17 mm follies now and saw a bunch of 16's which they think will be mature by tomorrow! So I am excited to see what i end up with. This has been a scary and long journey for me. My sister found out she had a miscarriage the day i started my first shot ever in the tummy for this ivf. I was an emotional mess that day too. thats probably why she didn't mention it. Anyways i am hopeful that i get a bfp and that my sister gets a sticky one too, because now she actually wants one:) i thank you for writing to me, i appreciate your well thought out caring response. I love this site...have a wonderful weekend.

[paranoidpatty]

Hi Jennyfer!

Go ahead and vent on!!  I can relate.  I had FOUR babies to buy presents for last month.  One is my best friend. It was pretty easy shopping for the boy babies but I got a little choked up when it was time to buy for the girl (I have two boys and I REALLY want a girl now).  But I got over it and I'll just live through them until mine comes.  But sounds like it's a double-edged sword where people tried to spare your feelings, yet you feel like they're keeping secrets.  They probably really didn't know what to do but they know you have to find out some day (probably within the next 3-4 months :-)  But try to hang in there.  I am sending you some sooper dooper sticky baby dust hoping that your IVF will be successful.  Try to say positive so that you don't bring on any extra stress.  Think about what you have ahead of yourself and how you might be in her shoes soon.  Is this your first retrieval?

Trish