wow,you said it,mental status changes everything.
Thanks for the input and sorry it has taken me so long to get back. I don't come on this site much as you can tell. I am better now, mentally. I have found that " acceptance is the magic that makes things happen". When I change my attititude, things do get better. things may not change but my attititude toward my life does. Thanks for the encouraging, positive words. We are not alone and that makes me feel better. V
Lexapro isn't doing its job, plus I had problems with that stuff one time, maybe your doc will try something else. Hon, I'm disabled too, and can't do things like I used to, and WOW do I get sad sometimes, just hate it. We have regular lives and then boom, it's all gone. Of COURSE we're gonna feel sad. The only things that help me is every time I think of something dreadful, I make myself think of the GOOD stuff I have in my life.
Physical activity, no matter how small it is, seems to help me feel better. I used to be a really busy person, the right weight, practiced martial arts, had two jobs. But when I got disabled, couldn't budge off the couch. But after I sort of got control of my emotions, accepting my situation and moving forward with what I have, and reducing daydreams to REALISTIC ones, I was wanting to at least go out in the yard and putter around for 10 minutes or so, until my back starts hurting, and just that bit of activity helped me.
Getting those drugs right is key. I take a lot of drugs, too, and I sometimes wonder how much of a part they play in this. But then I remember I HAVE to take that stuff or I'd be in the nuthouse by now, the pain is harder to handle than the drug side effects. But I did spend some time fine-tuning my medicines. I'm glad you're going to see your doc about your drugs. Could be switching the Lexapro will help you... it helped me to get rid of it, in a real big way. And I reckon you ought to be talking to a psychologist for a half-dozen visits, to get out all these bad feelings and receive a little guidance.
Anyhow, I'm over here spending my days on the couch, too, and I'm depressed, and while I'm a lot better than when I first got disabled, yes, it's still a lingering problem that I find frustrating. I hope some of my talk will help you a little.