Dealing with My Dad's Girlfriend!

[mom2jared]

My father has been dating this one woman three months after my mother passed away from Ovarian Cancer.  I'm trying to get along with her but she is so opionated.  First she tells my father how to eat and dress and now she's telling me that I need to lose weight.  The last straw was when she told me that I shouldn't take my nine year old son to New York for my mom's unveiling.  I try to keep my distance and not to listen to her, but I just learned that on the return trip home (which is a three hour flight), my Dad has to stay in New York for business and I will be traveling alone with her and my son.  I'm worried about how I'm going to get along with her.  At least in New York, we'll be with family so I won't have to deal with her too much.  I want to like her and I'm trying to but lately, she's been pissing me off.  It's hard enough seeing my father with another woman, but this would be easier if this was someone I could tolerate.  

What should I do?

Thanks!

[JennieJoe]

First, let me say, I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother.  Now, on to the new girlfriend - your father likes her or needs her - otherwise, he wouldn't put up with her telling him what to eat or how to dress.  That being said, you need to tell her, respectfully and calmly, that you don't need or want another mother.  Tell her you know your father cares for her and you're happy that he has found someone to help him through this difficult time.  But, tell her that you are an adult with your own life and that if you want her advice, you'll ask for it.  Whatever you do, don't lose your cool or use strong language.  That will just come back and bite you.  Good luck!

[mom2jared]

I just want to know how to deal with her better!

[mom2jared]

I can't!  My Dad made the reservation and there was no other flight that I could take.  This is a small airport and they have limited flights.

[AnnieBrooke]

Change flights.