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I had loved a girl for one year and in june she compelled me for sex am a uncircumcised guy with lot of fore skin and I had not retracted the fore skin before putting the condom as it was my first time i didnt know that and i had wore two condoms as it was told by her but had unprotected oral sex. After a month & more than four times sex with her she tells me that she is HIV positive. Now am in a tensed situation will I be affected am very much concerned after hearing this am very much depressed and i have lost all my happiness. Please help me will i be affected.
Will i be infected am in a tensed situation please help me .Now my parents are planning my marriage and am afraid to do a check up. I don’t know what to do. Please help somebody. Please as am loosing my concentration. It has been six months since my encounter & during the time I had fever but lasted only one day and it was gone will that be a symptom please help I can’t even tell about this to anyone else please help am begging you guys.
one more thing i forgot ask guys one thing that i noticed was that although my penis was fully coverd with condom but the hair around it was full of her fluids after withdrawal. Will that be a matter of concern ?
am not posting excessively but now am engaged to a girl and am in a tensed situation please help anybody
Will i be infected am in a tensed situation please help me .Now my parents are planning my marriage and am afraid to do a check up. I don’t know what to do. Please help somebody. Please as am loosing my concentration. It has been six months since my encounter & during the time I had fever but lasted only one day and it was gone will that be a symptom please help I can’t even tell about this to anyone else please help am begging you guys.
one more thing i forgot ask guys one thing that i noticed was that although my penis was fully coverd with condom but the hair around it was full of her fluids after withdrawal. Will that be a matter of concern ?
am not posting excessively but now am engaged to a girl and am in a tensed situation please help anybody
Panjani, don't beat yourself up further, but please brave up for the test, listen to what everyone here is saying to you, and try and feel more confident after their advice. There is some amazing advice up there, take it on board, embrace it, and use it against your fears and anxieties. The longer this goes on as it is the worse it will be for you, which given everything said so far seems to be unnecessary.
Our minds are amazing things, but they don't always work in our favour. Faced with stressful episodes like this they can affect you and make you experience symptoms which are purely anxiety and stress related. I worry, now you are describing a new 'symptom' (hardly a classic one either) that you are going to begin a vicious cycle and start down that trail of anxiety and stress induced symptoms that I and many others have or have had. Don't give yourself the grief, particularly when you can get a definitive answer.
Like you I was told my situation was no risk, but of course one's mind is awash with what if's. Likewise I have had a catalogue of 'symptoms', some downright terrifying, but it is amazing how they tend to appear when I've recently read about them, or get worse once I settle and fixate upon them. As soon as read I have got one wrong it also tends to lessen or disappear. Draw your own conclusions. I have had health anxiety previosuly, so I know the power. It is horrible how your mind latches onto what it wants, and what will feed the anxiety, yet it selectively disregards what should help, such as the advice on here from both eminently experienced doctors and extremely knowledgeable posters who been here and seen this many times before.
You are in a state of shock and fear after what happened to you, anyone would be and I feel very sorry for what you have had to go through, but the opinions on this site to YOUR SPECIFIC enquiries should be providing you with the support to try and rationalise this, have a lot of confidence, and go for the test expecting good news. So many horrible emotions play out with this situation, but re-read all of the advice on this site given to you to try and redress the balance in your mind. Can you get counselling? If so, maybe do that?
Unlike you I cannot test yet for a little while, you can. I am counting down the seconds because I have to know (testing next week), and yet I can see the temptation not to test, and go cold when I think of the process itself, and the wait for results. But even that is a mental construct, based on warped thoughts made when I am at my lowest and most frightened. I am holding onto the fact that people here have said my risk is low or not at all, and when my mind is clear I realise how sometimes I have let the panic overwhelm common sense.
Unfortunately though these situations we are in are not conducive to clear thinking, and so I understand where you are at, because I'm there too. But for your own sanity you really need to test, as does anyone in this predicament.
You cannot change what is done but you can take a deep breath, try and bring things into focus, and take back control. Take comfort from the fact that nobody on here thinks you were even at risk. They aren't doing that for the sake of it because they want to shield you, they are providing informed opinions.
Get this over with now, the odds of you being absolutely fine are so massively in your favour, keep that in mind, go for your test fully expecting a negative result.
Our minds are amazing things, but they don't always work in our favour. Faced with stressful episodes like this they can affect you and make you experience symptoms which are purely anxiety and stress related. I worry, now you are describing a new 'symptom' (hardly a classic one either) that you are going to begin a vicious cycle and start down that trail of anxiety and stress induced symptoms that I and many others have or have had. Don't give yourself the grief, particularly when you can get a definitive answer.
Like you I was told my situation was no risk, but of course one's mind is awash with what if's. Likewise I have had a catalogue of 'symptoms', some downright terrifying, but it is amazing how they tend to appear when I've recently read about them, or get worse once I settle and fixate upon them. As soon as read I have got one wrong it also tends to lessen or disappear. Draw your own conclusions. I have had health anxiety previosuly, so I know the power. It is horrible how your mind latches onto what it wants, and what will feed the anxiety, yet it selectively disregards what should help, such as the advice on here from both eminently experienced doctors and extremely knowledgeable posters who been here and seen this many times before.
You are in a state of shock and fear after what happened to you, anyone would be and I feel very sorry for what you have had to go through, but the opinions on this site to YOUR SPECIFIC enquiries should be providing you with the support to try and rationalise this, have a lot of confidence, and go for the test expecting good news. So many horrible emotions play out with this situation, but re-read all of the advice on this site given to you to try and redress the balance in your mind. Can you get counselling? If so, maybe do that?
Unlike you I cannot test yet for a little while, you can. I am counting down the seconds because I have to know (testing next week), and yet I can see the temptation not to test, and go cold when I think of the process itself, and the wait for results. But even that is a mental construct, based on warped thoughts made when I am at my lowest and most frightened. I am holding onto the fact that people here have said my risk is low or not at all, and when my mind is clear I realise how sometimes I have let the panic overwhelm common sense.
Unfortunately though these situations we are in are not conducive to clear thinking, and so I understand where you are at, because I'm there too. But for your own sanity you really need to test, as does anyone in this predicament.
You cannot change what is done but you can take a deep breath, try and bring things into focus, and take back control. Take comfort from the fact that nobody on here thinks you were even at risk. They aren't doing that for the sake of it because they want to shield you, they are providing informed opinions.
Get this over with now, the odds of you being absolutely fine are so massively in your favour, keep that in mind, go for your test fully expecting a negative result.
See a doctor if you are having health issues- they have nothing to do with the situation that you brought to this forum.
am having pain in & around my belly button wat will be the cause
Pan your not a failure, but you have prolonged the out come of a negative result and hence your now feeling in a state of depression and that isnt good.
Why on would you feel suicidle when you had no risk of HIV?
You do need to sit and take stock for a while. Look you have had a scare thats for sure, but you cannot get HIV with a condom. Their are millions of couple having sex with condoms when the one person is HIV +, and the other person is and remains HIV -. Thats why they use condoms, they protect from HIV.
Im sure tomorrow you can get this test out of the way, a nice big negative is on the way once you do it. If you feel your emotions are getting the better of you then speak with a doctor to help with the mental side of whats going on.
Why on would you feel suicidle when you had no risk of HIV?
You do need to sit and take stock for a while. Look you have had a scare thats for sure, but you cannot get HIV with a condom. Their are millions of couple having sex with condoms when the one person is HIV +, and the other person is and remains HIV -. Thats why they use condoms, they protect from HIV.
Im sure tomorrow you can get this test out of the way, a nice big negative is on the way once you do it. If you feel your emotions are getting the better of you then speak with a doctor to help with the mental side of whats going on.
Then you can keep the uncertainty forever.
apollo i failed i went upto entrance of lab and but cudnt go in its da fear inside me that stopped me from entering. i a failure guys, am losing my mind, am thinking of suicide nowadays
Im glad your doing it. well if im blunt, i lost count how many unprotected exposures i had, until one to many. I did not look forward to mine, but i was glad i took them, thats for sure.
Lets look at it another way. What if your negative, how will that make you feel? Happy, time to move on?. The chances of you being HIV postive from this exposure are Nil, nothing not a chance.
Ive been in your shoes, so i really do understand how you feel, and i know its hard going for testing, but buddy, when you get your negative, you will be like a guy with 2 dicks, so happy.
As for being positive, well if you are ( not ever from this exposure ) then you are, and you can do somthing about it. But lets just get tested and use the "positive" word as a postive, that testing negative will be you sorted, end of story.
Lets look at it another way. What if your negative, how will that make you feel? Happy, time to move on?. The chances of you being HIV postive from this exposure are Nil, nothing not a chance.
Ive been in your shoes, so i really do understand how you feel, and i know its hard going for testing, but buddy, when you get your negative, you will be like a guy with 2 dicks, so happy.
As for being positive, well if you are ( not ever from this exposure ) then you are, and you can do somthing about it. But lets just get tested and use the "positive" word as a postive, that testing negative will be you sorted, end of story.
You didn't have a risk, so its of course going to be negative. I do understand its a hard thing to go and do and its scary for everyone, your not alone there. I was in a relationship for 20 years, had 2 children, I went to donate blood one day for the service men who serve in the Army, I was still scared even though I knew I didn't have HIV that they were going to call me back and tell me I had HIV. That never happened. A rapid test takes 5-20 minutes. Wouldn't you rather get it over with for a 5-20 minute wait, then continue to worry for no reason.
ok apollo i wil go for a test but what if positive that making me tensed
ok apollo i will go for a test
Pan, if i could say to you i can make you Happy again with no concerns regarding HIV would you be intrested, well im sure you would so hear it is. A HIV test will end any concerns you have, although Joggen has made it quite clear as to why you shouldnt have any conerns.
You said, my penis was fully coverd with condom but the hair around it was full of her fluids after withdrawal. Will that be a matter of concern ?
No its not a concern. Your penis head was covered, and well done for being smart by using a condom. Now you cant get HIV from this exposure, so their for, you cannot be scared of the results can you?
Why not take a rapid test that gives results in 5 mins. I promise you, when you get your negative you will be happyier than a man who has been ship wrecked and ended up on an island full of women.
You said, my penis was fully coverd with condom but the hair around it was full of her fluids after withdrawal. Will that be a matter of concern ?
No its not a concern. Your penis head was covered, and well done for being smart by using a condom. Now you cant get HIV from this exposure, so their for, you cannot be scared of the results can you?
Why not take a rapid test that gives results in 5 mins. I promise you, when you get your negative you will be happyier than a man who has been ship wrecked and ended up on an island full of women.
We can't help beyond that. You can test now and get yourself informed of your status and plan your life in the next years or keeping the fear forever to the grave. That's your choice.
am afraid to go for a test thats my problem
As you were told in your other thread, you didn't put yourself at risk from protected sex. Since you apparently cannot accept that, go have an HIV test. The negative result will confirm everything that has been said to you and will allow you to move on with your life.
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