Hello everybody,
I'm sorry but this post is going to be jumbled.
I'm a 22-year-old bisexual guy who has long suffered from anxiety, depression and panic attacks for which I have sought treatment at times but never felt toraly cured. Despite this, friends and family are not aware of the extent of my issues as I am excellent at hiding them.
My anxiety associated with HIV is so strong that I cannot live a normal life. My fear started when I first made out with a guy at age 19. Although it was his first time doing anything sexual as well as mine, thefact that we progressed to oral sex has haunted me ever since.
I have always been a sick child, suffering from tonsillitis many times every year, as well as other viruses and glandular fever (mono). My glands have been swollen to the extreme since I can remember and I have always suffered from
Sore throats and tiredness. Despite a few other sexual encounters, I never progressed beyond receiving oral sex (and that itself took immense persuasion (even force) and I immensely regretted it and suffered anxiety since.
I am currently travelling over Europe and the middle east and I was convinced by several people that I need to "get over" my extreme anxiety by kissing whoever whenever. I have kissed lots of people but each time have held back, for fear of swallowing saliva. I progressed to oral sex with two guys who were both certified clean.
I am currently sick again, sore throat, swollen glands and coughing up phlegm daily and randomly. Every mosquito bite or pimple I see I am convinced is a legion of HIV. My entire body and mind are consumed by fear. I find myself dizzy, unable to walk, weak, blurry vision, short of breath and on the verge of tears at all times. It is not enough to reassure myself that I have had these types of issues all my life, or that my sexual activity has been
Very limited and safe.
I talked to my psychologist about this and suggested that I get tested, to which he replied that I shouldn't - I should trust my own knowledge that what I have done poses no risk and I need to realize this if I am ever going to get over this.
The guilt and worry I feel has me on the verge of a total nervous breakdown. I feel that HIV is inevitable for me
And delaying the confirmation of this is the only control I have. I envision the entire situation - finding out, crying, collapsing in the doctors surgery, telling my family and friends, being totally rejected by everyone, having nobody around me, becoming homeless and lifeless and never ever finding success, happiness or somebody to love. Just complete isolation, sickness and eternal sadness, shame and condemnation.
I'm sorry for the long and stupid post but I'm struggling so badly to cope with this alone. Everybody tells
I'm being ridiculous and that if I was any more virginal I'd be asexual, but I can't help it. I feel like HIV is following me, inside me or waiting to be, and ready to end my life socially and emotionally even before it does physically.
I don't even know why I'm posting here...just maybe hoping for a kind word.
Thanks for reading.