Oh where to starts ladies & gents... Me & my husband have been happily married for some time now, but had a few difficulties about 3 weeks ago to which we momentarily split up! We soon sorted things, got back to ourselves regained the love and passion (sexually too) and were back to our normal relationship. However my husband came down with flu like symptoms 10 days ago, had a temperature of 102 farenheit so visited the hospital where they took multiple tests to find nothing wrong & sent him away the next day with paracetomol etc. That was when my world got hit by a bulldozer and he admitted to a brief sexual encounter with a girl one evening when we had had our issues a few weeks back, and that although it had been protected vaginal sex the durex did slip of to where they carried on for a very short period. She has also given him oral sex. (ouch writing this hurts)! He is now terriified after feeling so ill, high temp, aching, sweating & headache that he may have contracted HIV from this girl! And clearly we are terrified in case he has passed it to me, which then also my baby could be at risk! I love him and we have decided to tryand work through this which i really hope we can but i have a few questions to ask people - to reassure a very worried, emotional and upset mind!
1) Can it be possible to experience symptoms about a week after the unprotected vaginal sex? The symptoms experienced were: Headache, very high temp, aching and generally feeling unwell. Symptoms NOT experienced - diarrohea, sickness, swollen glands.
2) After the symptoms above lasting 3 or 4 days he is feeling slightly better but left with a hacking cough - has fits where he cannot talk barely due to this. Is this a normal sign of HIV in the acute stage?
3) We have visited the clinics - he is to be tested after 3months of the incident, I have had bloods taken to check for my status & also have to be retested after 6 months. My partner has also ordered a home testing kit. What are the chances in your opinions of it coming back with a positive or negative result? (obviously know its an opinion and will take it all with a pinch of salt.
As i'm sure you'll understand this is a very emotional, anxious and worrying time for not only me but my partner. I am having to deal with feelings of hurt, betrayal (although we hadnt been together as such that weekend), anger, devastation and all the other feelings you can imagine a possible HIV suspect or their wife and family to worry about.
I would be grateful for anyones input & just hope with all my heart these next 3 months fly by for us, we can get through this together as a family and it will only make us stronger! And of course i hope with all my heart that my husband and i both are cleared of HIV and are both negative os our future together can become certain and worry free of this.
Thanks in advance!