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First TIme Sex... HELP!!!
I am new here, I posted this same message as a comment on someone else's question, I am new so I didn't know how the posting process worked anyways.
I am 21 yr old and I been dating this older female whom is 35yr old with a son and shes seems clean she takes yearly vaccines for her job, like hepatitis A,B,and C I believe. Anyways, moving on, we kissed a lot and I read that french kissing and saliva don't transmit HIV or STD's but now she performed Oral Sex on me (Blow Job and Hand Job) and she swallowed and played around with her saliva and my semen in her mouth and around my penis as well for about 5-9 minutes. And now my inner penis sort of itches, there's a bit of redness inside when opening the flap of the penis to look at the inner flesh. I showered and I feel relaxed but stressed and exhausted. I am a bit freaked out, this is my first time doing all this so I want to know what I should do. The girl is pretty understanding and she is willing to get tested for me to prove that she is a negative, but I am worried that she may be a positive, I dunno my mind is just looking at the worst situation and I want to be directed in the right direction with knowledgeable advice or tips or whatever. I just am confused, because people say saliva don't transmit and if I am a negative ( I guess I am since this is my first time having any form of sex, correct me if I am wrong) and my semen enters her mouth to be mixed with her non-transmittable saliva that would mean nothing would happen since I am technically a virgin at it and even she is positive and only introduced saliva to my semen I would be okay. I dunno but I hope you guys/girls help me out.
I am 21 yr old and I been dating this older female whom is 35yr old with a son and shes seems clean she takes yearly vaccines for her job, like hepatitis A,B,and C I believe. Anyways, moving on, we kissed a lot and I read that french kissing and saliva don't transmit HIV or STD's but now she performed Oral Sex on me (Blow Job and Hand Job) and she swallowed and played around with her saliva and my semen in her mouth and around my penis as well for about 5-9 minutes. And now my inner penis sort of itches, there's a bit of redness inside when opening the flap of the penis to look at the inner flesh. I showered and I feel relaxed but stressed and exhausted. I am a bit freaked out, this is my first time doing all this so I want to know what I should do. The girl is pretty understanding and she is willing to get tested for me to prove that she is a negative, but I am worried that she may be a positive, I dunno my mind is just looking at the worst situation and I want to be directed in the right direction with knowledgeable advice or tips or whatever. I just am confused, because people say saliva don't transmit and if I am a negative ( I guess I am since this is my first time having any form of sex, correct me if I am wrong) and my semen enters her mouth to be mixed with her non-transmittable saliva that would mean nothing would happen since I am technically a virgin at it and even she is positive and only introduced saliva to my semen I would be okay. I dunno but I hope you guys/girls help me out.
What about STD's, you also mention I should get tested, even though I am technically a virgin, this is my first receiving oral sexual experience from a female, could it be possible to have an STD without having sex also. I am just freaking out feeling like I am gonna faint if I have to get tested.
Oral sex is NOT a risk, ever. And furthermore, saliva is not infectious whatsoever. It has dozens of different enzymes that inhibit the transmission of HIV. A lot of what you are experiencing is anxiety over new sexual experiences. You had no risk from this situation, I assure you. Relax!
Remember, if you decide to have sex, use a latex condom and protect yourself. You will also avoid all of this worrying if you remember to use protection.
Remember, if you decide to have sex, use a latex condom and protect yourself. You will also avoid all of this worrying if you remember to use protection.
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