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Possible hiv infection?
So I have a question guys, I have been trying not to be too worried but damn it’s hard but I’d try. I met this girl on tinder, she lives in Dallas and I live in Austin. She was visiting Austin to hang out with her friend and we connected but I didn’t have sex with her when she was visiting austin. Although she gave me head. About two weeks or so later, I went to visit her in Dallas on July 17th, 2018. We had sex unprotected. It was vaginal sex although in the process of trying to put in my penis in her vagina when we tried to change positions, I mistakenly slid in her *** but took it out immediately. But penetration was just vaginal. Mind you, I had a cut on my penis that had healed. After we finished she went to the bathroom to clean up and all. That night, I felt very uneasy, I asked her when she got tested last and she said it was 4 years ago. And she said she was negative but I asked her if she had gotten a recent test and she said no. So this is where things got a lil twisted, she told me she was born with Chlamadya, I didn’t know how anyone would be born with that. Then she said she got chlamadya from her last ex. So I’m my mind I’m like “how did you know you had chlamadya if you did not do a test the second time?” I felt she was lying. Because the morning after, I noticed some blood stains on the sheets, but it was kinda old blood stains. I did a finger prick test 5 days after and it was negative. I told her to go do a test and let’s find out I even googled a place in Dallas that tests for free and I called them and they said she can just walk in. Tell me why she called them and scheduled it for next week Thursday??? That night I remember tricking her by telling her “hey I got someone who pulled your medical records and they found out you were hiv positive” she freaked out and was asking me why I would do that. She was worried that I knew. She still claims that she doesn’t know if she has hiv. I have scheduled to be tested on August 14. It feels like a lifetime away but God forbid, this happens and it’s negative, I am going to make sure she goes to prison. Because if she knew and didn’t disclose (cos the hospital would keep a record of that test). Instead of her to work with me and get tested so we know, she’s out here behaving like a child and blocking me on social media and my phone. Am I at risk? It’s a week now and no symptoms. Why is she refusing to do a hiv test???? What are the chances that I would contact this thing from this wicked and selfish Dallas girl?
The big thing to focus on from my comments is that this was LOW risk. That transmission from a single event like this is around 1 percent. That you do not need to panic.
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True that. I appreciate it.
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A one time exposure of a brief penis insert into the vagina is very low risk. I think you're being a little hard on the girl. I'm sure you were all up for this at the time, you inserted and now you act like SHE tricked you. You were just as promiscuous as her. You were full party to what transpired and then treated her like she is a criminal. Lots of people do not test out of fear and maybe that is her. She doesn't have to answer to you, really. Get yourself tested and always use a condom after you get your negative (which you likely will). Not trying to be hard on you but you are acting like she maliciously attacked you with HIV when all she did was act the same way you did with a stranger.
Remember --- LOW risk from a one time encounter such as you describe (no risk from anything but that brief penetration). Test at the appropriate time and I would not be worried about this. The rate of contracting HIV from a one time vaginal insertion is around 1 percent. Still need to test but don't go overboard with the anxiety.
Remember --- LOW risk from a one time encounter such as you describe (no risk from anything but that brief penetration). Test at the appropriate time and I would not be worried about this. The rate of contracting HIV from a one time vaginal insertion is around 1 percent. Still need to test but don't go overboard with the anxiety.
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I accept the chastising remark. You are right, I was promiscuous. Something I’d never do again. I appreciate your hard comments cos it’s the truth. Although I disagree with what you said bout the fact that I am treating her like a criminal. I just feel funny about this and the fact that I caught her in a lie bout her chlamydia test. It’s only natural to not trust what a person tells you after you caught them in a lie once. But agreed, I was promiscuous. Thank you so much fam.
I don't often comment like that but she probably was reacting to your anxiety and being grilled on her sexual status. Sure takes the sexy out of meeting someone online for a hook up. Leave her alone now and just learn from it. People lie for a lot of reasons including being ashamed or feeling backed into a corner. Human nature. I can see how it made you more nervous and not trusting of her. That's what happen when people lie but you also lied to her with the whole 'someone got your records'. People lie, right? And the criminal comment came from your own comment of the same nature. The way you wrote things made me compelled to go on the tangent I did --- but mostly, you had very low risk from this encounter. That's the main point.
I wouldn't worry about why she is refusing to test. It would be nice if she would test, but she is defensive, possibly because you told her you pulled her health records. She might have wondered what is next and cut ties. Or she might be afraid to test for no valid reason, but some people are like that.
Try to relax until you can test, because nothing is pointing towards her having HIV and you are making a lot of assumptions which can't be validated so thinking that way will only increase your anxiety.
Try to relax until you can test, because nothing is pointing towards her having HIV and you are making a lot of assumptions which can't be validated so thinking that way will only increase your anxiety.
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Thank you for your very prompt response. I appreciate it. However, Is there a particular type of HIV test that can determine infection at lest 14 days after exposure? I really can’t wait till August 14 which will be 28 days. I am a Christian and I have prayed to Jesus to help me. I am still worried sick and I will never do this nonsense again. But are there tests available that would detect infection 14 days after exposure? What about the slight drops of blood on the sheets? It was about two drops. They looked a lil old tho, like when you wash em and it’s still there.
RNA is very expensive otherwise the duo is your option after 4 weeks. People don't get HIV after each sex encounter and she may be negative like most people which is what I would focus on.
I continue to urge you only to think about relaxing until the test and not to try to construct data because you will not get answers, so that will just make you more anxious thinking about it.
I continue to urge you only to think about relaxing until the test and not to try to construct data because you will not get answers, so that will just make you more anxious thinking about it.
What’s RNA? Do clinics and labs do that? Can I request for it to be done? Is it 14 days after exposure for the test?
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