i read through all your posts and the most relevant thing i read was this:
" It wasn't bleeding, pussing, hurting, or anything when we kissed (that I can remember). "
soooooo...looks like you are letting your anxiety fuel your thoughts. there was never blood present in either of your mouths.
time to move on and put this our of your mind.
Kissing is NOT a risk for contracting HIV regardless. It's not about the quantity of blood as much as it is the environment which exists within the mouth.
-JC-