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How worries should I be?
I met a guy in a bar about a week ago and we had sex. As he was performing anal sex on me, I felt him pull out quickly and he put another condom on. The only thing that has gone through my mind is that the condom broke and he is HIV positive. I am crippled with fear. I talked to him about it and he said the condom did not break and he is HIV negative. He also stated he will send me his test results through email when he gets back to his hometown in about a weeks time. I have texted him a few times and his story has not changed; no breakage and he is clean. It has gotten to the point where I pestered him so much that he was very blunt with me and told me he is tired of me contacting him about this and he has a good mind to just make me wait the three months for the results. I feel badly for bothering him so much, I am just lost.
I guess what I am wondering is why would someone change a condom if it didn't tear (of course I didn't ask him) and if it did tear how likely is it that someone might be lying so adamantly about being negative? I am sorry if these are silly questions, I am just so distraught. I have had to call in sick a couple of days at work as I am having the hardest time dealing with this. Thank you.
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I guess what I am wondering is why would someone change a condom if it didn't tear (of course I didn't ask him) and if it did tear how likely is it that someone might be lying so adamantly about being negative? I am sorry if these are silly questions, I am just so distraught. I have had to call in sick a couple of days at work as I am having the hardest time dealing with this. Thank you.
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a risk is a risk and you dont even know if you had unprotected sex or not.
you have been told when to test for a conclusive result...nothing more to tell you.
you have been told when to test for a conclusive result...nothing more to tell you.
Oh okay, thank you Teak, did not know. I know you are asked this a thousand times, but going off what I have mentioned above, do you think I am at high risk for hiv infection? I am in Toronto, Canada.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Oh okay sorry. I just thought you were telling him to move on corresponding with me which he definitely has the right to do.
it doesnt look like you in risk..cozs he was negative up untill 3 montns...and u not sure if condom was broken ..
In your opinion Carlos do you think I have an incredibly high risk? If he is negative at least up until 3 months or so ago and always uses condoms?
12 weeks. I will get one done at 12 weeks also but 6 weeks just to get some idea.
unfortunately it looks like we don't have the DUO test in Canada. I was thinking of POC at 6 weeks to give me an idea.
i have been there too... and i end up negative results at 12 weeks
best way to do get tested ..u can actually test at four weeks ..that what i done 4 weeks and 12 weeks it was dou test
best way to do get tested ..u can actually test at four weeks ..that what i done 4 weeks and 12 weeks it was dou test
Am I worrying to much? I would love to be able to just wait but it is driving me insane.
I actually think I believe he is negative. He has the updated documents to prove it and states he always wears protection personally or professionally. However how can one be sure? That is the problem.
Does anyone know of some who had unprotected receptive anal sex with an hiv+ person and still turned out to be negative?
Hi all. Just an update. The gentleman was kind enough to meet with me. I think he can tell how distraught I am. When talking to him he assured me over and over that in his personal life and professional life he always uses condoms, and the only condom break he has experienced was 2 years ago when he was the receptive partner. He then told me after I talked with him some more that the condom did in fact break, but while it was outside of me (how this happens I have no idea). Basically where I am at now is I fully believe it broke in me and I have been infected. I havent been able to stop crying since I talked with him, and all I can think about is how I have ruined my sons life because of my selfishness. I know all I can do is wait the 3 months, but honestly I don't know if I can go that long. My chest is in a constant state of pain and I feel like I am having a heart attack (runs in my family). I can't believe how stupid I was. Anyway it seems that it has bitten me in the behind and now that's it. Please everyone, just stay safe.
andy please dont hijack other peoples threads with your drivel.
Emmy-on the plus side, he practiced safe sex with you. If he does that with everyone else it wont matter how many people he has had sex with, chances are he is HIV free.
Good luck when you get tested, let us know how you get on.
Emmy-on the plus side, he practiced safe sex with you. If he does that with everyone else it wont matter how many people he has had sex with, chances are he is HIV free.
Good luck when you get tested, let us know how you get on.
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