I'm worried to death

[couldibeme]

Well I am generally very careful and practice safe sex as a rule, but this time I slipped and things haven't been normal ever since. I started a new relationship with an older guy of 52 and I'm 43. During our first sexual encounter we had difficulties inserting protection and maintaining a healthy erection at the same time. So stupidly we both thought letting him play around my vaginal area with his penis a little would help jolt his erection back quickly , so we did that and I applied KY Jelly for added pleasure for him. This activity lasted for a very short time, he didn't come in me at all, although I'm not sure about precum since i was moist from the KY jelly. We then continued with a condom. Now the problem is I knew my status ( HIV-) before him, but he didn't and I'm worried that He may infected me. Another thing is that he inserted a finger or two up my anus , which I found  very uncomfortable, and asked him to remove.( i'm not into anal sex, never had and don't intend to start). I'm not sure wheter it is due to worry , but I had nausea the very next day after unprotected sex with him , and I have since experienced a sore throat and i think some swelling around my neck.  I know I cannot be diagnosed over the net , but what are the odds really? Thanks

[couldibeme]

Thanks Teak, It's  comforting to have someone to talk to. Yes you are right baout testing, I am waiting for two more months befor I go test. about STDs I went to insert a coil soon after this encounter , and got tested for clamydia and Ghonnorea they were both clear , thank God. The wait is killing me and I have raed every literature available on the net on HIV. Like I say the unprotected encounter did not last that long. oh my God! I have an 8 year old girl and she doesn't have a father, i'm the only parent. I'm shitting on myself really. I have never had unprotected sex since she was a year old when her father died. this was really stupid of me, and I am such a preacher when it comes to safe sex!

[Teak]

If you had unprotected sex you need to test, not only for HIV but also for other STDs.