OMG, worried sick!

[cattarina]

Hello,

I have done something real terrible and need HELP!  My husband cheated on me with my best friend, I caught the actaully in the act in our bed.  She was my best friend and also married and I am VERY confident she is not HIV positive.

After months of grief I decided to get even, went out to a night club with a group of freinds, met a guy, danced with him most of the night then took him to my car where I gave him oral sex.  He ejaculated in my mouth, I played with it a bit with my toung then swallowed.

4 days later I had an upset stomach for a week with loose and watery stool combined with white toung and sometimes a but of a tender throte.  It is now 9 weeks and I still have loose and watery stools, some white toung
and now a runny nose and neck, back and head achs.

Can this be symptoms of HIV?  

[diver58]

I am glad to learn. This is my own viewpoint (and probably CDC would second it) that mutually committed monogamous relationship is the best way of doing safe sex, freely and without any fear.

Just keep with yourself, what had happened. Men are not that broad minded at times when it comes to their own  wives, even though they do whatever they want.Wishing you all the best in your happy matrimonial relationship.

[cattarina]

Thank you that helps. I am not proud of what I did, I got drunk and was stupid.  Getting even although felt good at the time was not the answer.  My husband and I are closer than ever and we spend more time with each other and our loving children.  I don't think I could ever tell him what happened, I think it could turn him off and reck what we now have if he knew another mans penis was in his wifes mouth.

Thank you again!  I am happy to know that there is no really risk from that stupid event

[HSci34]

Your risk is extremely low... estimated, (if the man was infected - and this is highly unlikely) - to be less than 1 in 10 000, even with ejaculation. Your symptoms do not indicate HIV (symptoms never indicate HIV).

Why is this the case? For one, the mouth is a highly inhospitable environment for HIV. Saliva contains many enzymes that actively degrade other proteins (including the protein coat of HIV that is required to allow it to infect you). The mouth does not also have many places where HIV can infect, and as for ejaculate and it going into your stomach - the stomach is one of the harshest environments and would degrade the virus.

I do not think you need to worry and would not even recommend testing at this point. However, seeing how anxiety-ridden you are, you can test yourself for peace of mind. Your test will be negative. At 9 weeks, over 98-99% of people will have tested positive and given how extremely low risk your exposure is, you can be 100% confident you did not aquire HIV from the one instance.  There are point of care tests available (called rapid tests), they are just as highly effective as traditional blood tests (except the chance of false positive is slightly higher with them) and you can get your result in 10-20 minutes (some are immediate). The only reason I am suggesting testing is for your personal sanity.

I really would not worry about this, it is extremely unlikely that you are infected.

[diver58]

Your risk is considered to be in very low category. Symptoms do not surface so quickly after the exposure.

Though reacting and reciprocating on cheating of husband is not a solution to your problem, be careful next time and avoid unprotected exposure of any kind, if you decide to continue. Even oral sex for females is risky (though risk is very low), if ejaculation is involved.

While you may seek medical advice for your your symptoms (not due to HIV), you may relax and move on. It is important to know that though HIV is very unlikely, you may contract other STD's via oral route, including Herpes, which is also not curable.

I would suggest you to get STD panel run for you, and feel that HIV is not a risk for you to warrent a test for that. However, only to lay your worries to rest, you may test yourself for HIV after 3 month mark, not because of this event