stressedandneed help

[stressedandneedhelp]

i have done some stupind thing over the past year.  i am so worried that i have hiv and have infected my wife.

2 times i have had protected sex with a sex worker, the condom was intact when i was done.  this lasted seconds.  i did deep kiss one.

i received a unprotected blow job from a sex worker.

i went to a massage parlor and the massuese gave me a prostate massage with no gloves on.

i have had a few hand jobs from different chinese massage ladies.

can i get hiv from any of these activities.  i am so stressed, that every little thing that is wrong with me i think i have HIV.

please help

[B23121]

The guilt and anxiety is pretty much always the cause of irrational fears of HIV. You had completely no risk.

[stressedandneedhelp]

thank you for you advise.  My wife would like to start trying to have another child.  i have been saying no because of the fear of hiv.  this clears my mind and will start having unprotected sex with my wife.  

i am also going to see a counselor, the guilt of what i have done is killing me.

thank you again

[B23121]

You have heard correct. Unless you are sharing IV needles. You have nothing to worry about my friend.

[stressedandneedhelp]

so for these events, protected sex (condom didnt break), prostate massage and oral sex there is absolutely no way i can get hiv? and the only way to get hiv sexually is to have unprotected anal or vaginal sex?  i have heard that hiv cannot be transmitted outside of the body, is that true.  

the anxiety and guilt is killing me, i am so wrried that i infected my wife.  i am trying to but this behind me and move on.  but, the guilt is killing me.

thank you for your advise

[B23121]

You said this happened within the past year? Not recommended but you can go get an HIV duo test for peace of mind if its been more than 4 weeks since exposure. Your result will be negative.

[B23121]

And condom protected sex is no risk. Even if the condom broke it would still be considered low risk. As less than 1 percent of sex workers have HIV

[B23121]

There has never been a documented case of HIV transmission from receiving a blow job in the entire 30 year epidemic of HIV. And you won't be the first. A prostate massage is no risk. HIV is transmitted only by unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing IV needles

[stressedandneedhelp]

could you please explain why, i am freaking out.

[B23121]

No risk at all. No need for testing.