Post your STD questions in the STD forum to get the proper answers. As for HIV, symptoms mean nothing in telling ones status. From what you describe it does not sound like ARS. If you think you have been exposed through unprotected vaginal or anal sex with your husband then you should seek testing for HIV. You will need to test 3 months after your last exposure for your conclusive result.
As for oral sex and kissing his penis this is not a risk for HIV at all.
Hope this helps
thank you i didnt realize until i posted this was for HIv only first time user my bad but still thanks for the info