So scared...

[gg201]

I am a 29 year old female. I have tested negative for HIV for years, I donate blood regularly. I donated at the beginning of Feb and it was negative for HIV, and had unprotected sex with a man who is a Navy officer in the middle of Feb. I thought the relationship would go somewhere, and I trusted him, but later I found out that he was married and separated from his wife and basically out finding "rebound" sex from me and other women. He recently left for deployment, but I am scared that he was really unsafe between the time that he was tested for deployment and the time that he left for deployment. I have recently had swollen glands, headaches, and a general fatigue and nausea. I don't know if I am just experiencing anxiety or these sypmtoms are something worse. I am so scared, and the more I worry about it the worse I feel physically. What are the chances that he caught HIV after he was tested and spread it to me? We had unprotected sex twice. I can't go through the day without freaking out about this, and I can't even sleep without having nightmares that I am positive. I am so scared to get checked, I just can't deal with the results.

[gg201]

Thank you for your comment and peace of mind...I would love to just accept the negative results and move on, but I know I should have waited my full 3 months, and I was about 2 weeks short of that. I will just continue to get tested.

[david623]

I can tell you this. I was in the service and we got tested once a year for HIV and before deployments.  I am not saying he is not HIV neg, but of all the population, I know that people in the military are "safer" than civilian.  Another reason they are "safer" is because it is a crime under UCMJ to commit adultary.  Does it happen?  Sure, but most military folks do not do it often.  Get tested for your peace of mind.  I would bet it will be neg from this situation.  Remember to always us protection ans sometimes protection does not work, but use it anyways.  

[gg201]

I waited for 10 weeks and came out HIV Non-reactive. Did I wait long enough? Or is there a chance the results will change in 2 weeks?

[gg201]

Thank you. I just went to my family doc and he reassured me that the "physical" symptoms I am experiencing is just anxiety. He went over my risks with me and said that my risk is very low, but he did order an HIV test but I am going to wait for the 8 week mark. I will keep posted when I get my actual results...

[Teak]

Since you already know how testing works, get tested. AGAIN..