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To Everyone: An Apology
Hi guys and gals,
I just want to apologise for my post last Friday http://www.medhelp.org/forums/HIVSupport/messages/1388.html
It's just I'm absolutely terrified myself; big painless lumps in my neck, intermittent rash, headaches, even though I know that symptoms mean nothing. I alternate between being worried about having infected the girl I slep with And I try to help with people's problems here, but it rarely seems to work.
I was also angry at myself for spending too much time on here!
I just wish a lot of you guys who haven't had risks could just let it be and get on with your lives. There is nothing more soul destroying than worrying about HIV, especially when the risk is protected sex, insertive oral, kissing, toilet seats (on and on and on!) But then again, if reassurance helps, even for a small while, I'll try and post when I can.
Sorry for my petulance!:)
I just want to apologise for my post last Friday http://www.medhelp.org/forums/HIVSupport/messages/1388.html
It's just I'm absolutely terrified myself; big painless lumps in my neck, intermittent rash, headaches, even though I know that symptoms mean nothing. I alternate between being worried about having infected the girl I slep with And I try to help with people's problems here, but it rarely seems to work.
I was also angry at myself for spending too much time on here!
I just wish a lot of you guys who haven't had risks could just let it be and get on with your lives. There is nothing more soul destroying than worrying about HIV, especially when the risk is protected sex, insertive oral, kissing, toilet seats (on and on and on!) But then again, if reassurance helps, even for a small while, I'll try and post when I can.
Sorry for my petulance!:)
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who am I to forgive her,its her who has to forgive me. I back stabbed her despite of having such a sweet li'l angel by my side I made love with a sex worker ....my bad,i'm in two minds i wanna confess it to her but i fear i'd loose her, i wanna hide it from her but my conscience is biting me......I did a stupid mistake. I'd probably delay our date for a day or two, meanwhile i'd try to make my mind and be ready for either of the consequences
What I meant was, if she was unfaithful to you, you'd forgive her, right?
Don't tell her! Believe me, and I speak from experience, it solves nothing. You made a mistake, it happens. Just try not to put yourself in the situation where you might do it again. Use condoms until you're happy with your results - if I were you I'd be happy with them right now - and remember that human beings can do a lot worse to each other than be unfaithful.
Seriously, telling her would be the selfish thing to do. Suck it in, learn from your mistake and move on:)
Don't tell her! Believe me, and I speak from experience, it solves nothing. You made a mistake, it happens. Just try not to put yourself in the situation where you might do it again. Use condoms until you're happy with your results - if I were you I'd be happy with them right now - and remember that human beings can do a lot worse to each other than be unfaithful.
Seriously, telling her would be the selfish thing to do. Suck it in, learn from your mistake and move on:)
Hello dobber. You probably don't recogonize me but I've been here on and off since Jan. I'm glad your not going to stop posting. I had an evening of unprotected vaginal and oral with unknown status female in mid December and began to have symtoms about 2 weeks later. Tested neg (AB) at 23 days but doc said too early. Tested neg PCR-DNA at 43 days but doc said not confirmed until 12 week AB test. This week is my 12 week AB test and I am miserable. Am married and been avoiding wife sice Dec. Xhost and Kekelow were really helpful but the 12 weeks wait is really painful. I am praying for a neg and a fast week. Symtoms won't completely go away, if you know what I mean. What are your thoughts on 43 day PCR-DNA neg? Good luck and prayers to you.
Yeah, being married is a strange one. Just loads of opportunities for my brain to play tricks on me! Combined with sleep deprivation (our 3 year old hasn't actually slept through the night for much more than 1 or 2 days in a row for the last 3 years), my right brain has a whale of a time!
Having said that, my weekend was pretty good too. Did a lot of gardening, which was strangely peaceful.
I'm actually based in Cardiff, a short hop across the water from Dublin.... :)
Having said that, my weekend was pretty good too. Did a lot of gardening, which was strangely peaceful.
I'm actually based in Cardiff, a short hop across the water from Dublin.... :)
If she says she has not been with anyone in 3 months and she has taken the test you should certainly believe her. She clearly doesn't seem as though she feels there is anything to worry about and you shouldn't either.
Hi Savtide, I'm really sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. We all make mistakes, and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. What were your 'symptoms' two weeks after exposure?
A PCR at that time, in my mind, is definitely conclusive. Your doc is being very conservative. HHH says that 6 weeks is conclusive for antibody tests, and PCR looks for the virus itself, so if that was negative at the time you took it, I'd say you're home free.
But testing really is a personal thing. If a single guy has an episode or two of unprotected sex, he generally won't even dream of testing. In fact, before I met my current girlfriend, I'd had about 30 episodes of unprotected vaginal sex and I never, ever worried about HIV. I never contracted HIV either. But when you're in a relationship and are unfaithful, the stakes are raised and therefore you want to be as sure as sure can be.
I don't think your test results will change, but I also don't think you'll rest until you've had your 12 week negative. But you're home free, congrats!:)
A PCR at that time, in my mind, is definitely conclusive. Your doc is being very conservative. HHH says that 6 weeks is conclusive for antibody tests, and PCR looks for the virus itself, so if that was negative at the time you took it, I'd say you're home free.
But testing really is a personal thing. If a single guy has an episode or two of unprotected sex, he generally won't even dream of testing. In fact, before I met my current girlfriend, I'd had about 30 episodes of unprotected vaginal sex and I never, ever worried about HIV. I never contracted HIV either. But when you're in a relationship and are unfaithful, the stakes are raised and therefore you want to be as sure as sure can be.
I don't think your test results will change, but I also don't think you'll rest until you've had your 12 week negative. But you're home free, congrats!:)
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