transmission happens INSIDE the body...when an unprotected penis is inside a vagina / anus.
you had NO risk from what you've described.
i just worry about the case when my finger in her vagin secretions thouched my balanus.also i had some vagin secretions in my saliva which was smeared on balanus leter. i know that HIV lives 5-10 min outside body,but this cases happened after 5-6 min when my finger was in her vagin.and my finger was wet...HIV more hardy in liquids.
and these strange symptoms after sex.... i think i had some risk..
Nothing you done put you at risk of contracting HIV.
HIV is unable to reproduce outside its living host (unlike many bacteria or fungi, which may do so under suitable conditions), except under laboratory conditions; therefore, it does not spread or maintain infectiousness outside its host.
HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug abusers
Mother to child