Small cut in scrotum and shower after sex: HIV transmission?

[Claus1000]

Hello,

PLEASE HELP I AM DESPERATE!

I had sex with a hooker in the Netherlands about 2 week ago. Here prostitution is legal and she was hired from an escort website. They said all the hookers are regularly tested every three months (I also phoned and asked myself) against STDs.

The sex act was TOTALLY PROTECTED (condom all the time) including the oral sex (also with a condom). Nothing weird happened.

So far so good, however 1 hour before her arrival I was trimming my pubic hair and made a small cut in my scrotum. Very little blood came out but totally stopped about 30 minutes later. I think you can see already where I am heading to. I am afraid of contracting a STD (HIV!!).

I had a shower some 5-10 minutes after we finished the sex (not sure if it was wise or not) and of course made sure to wash my genitals properly with soap. Next day I could see in my underwear two (VERY!!!) tiny spots ( watery - not really blood) I believe due to cicatrization. It was gone in two days.

As far as I could see several Dr. online indeed say that there's no problem at all (due to protected sex). However, I am still worried (sorry...). My question is:

1) Is there any chance of HIV contamination because of the cuts and/or because of the shower I had some 5-10 min afterwards ?

I also noted some red spots on the head of my penis today (7 days after and come and go) however I sometimes have these after having sex with my wife. They always disappear after a while. Besides that, no pain whatsoever. They are also not itchy. My body temperature is perfectly normal.

I was getting more confident about not bring infected however my wife started some 3 days ago to complain about a mouth sore... It is not big and it does not hurt too much but after some googling I saw that this is one of the most common HIV symptoms, so I am totally desperate that I've the virus and have infected her as well...

Since I am so worried I am barely eating and feel nauseous very often.

Could you provide some advice if it safe to continue life normally or shall I go and visit my GP ?

best,

Claus.

[Jcc1970]

You had no exposure as you have been told.  Your wife needs to see her doctor for her problems.  They are not an HIV concern.

[Claus1000]

Dear AnxiousinAK,

Firstly thank you very much for your answer.

My major concern now is that my wife showed this mouth sore out of the blue... so I started to panic. She had that before only once. The bright side is that she has no other HIV symptoms (e.g. no fever). I also feel fine except the agony of course...

She first complained 11 days after we had unprotected sex after the hooker episode, so it fits to the "around 2 weeks" time the virus need to start to spread. This is my main concern.

Thank you very much again.

[Claus1000]

Dear AnxiousinAK,

As you correctly stated I do feel very guilty indeed. It was a very wrong attitude that I won't forgive myself...

As you also correctly mentioned nothing wrong happened with the (latex) condom. I am mostly concerned that my WIFE showed this mouth sore out of the blue... (exactly 11 days after our unprotected first sexual contact after the call girl) She is also stressed because of other things, so I hope it is because of that.

I hope this was a unlucky coincidence...

Thank you for your answer.

[Midnight_Sun]

You had NO risk of HIV from this encounter. As you stated both oral and vaginal sex was protected with (I assume) a latex condom. You did not mention that the condom slipped off or broke. Therefore, you encountered NO possible transmission of HIV.
Further, CSW use condoms to protect THEMSELVES, not YOU. Further, due to the rigorous testing protocol these individuals submit themselves the chances that your partner was HIV+ is are so unlikely to be nearly non-existent.
Your lack of appetite and nausea are classic symptoms of anxiety. Probably brought on by your extreme guilt over your actions. If you cannot deal with the emotional consequences brought on by not being faithful to your wife, perhaps you should re-think your actions.
You did not suffer a risk from HIV. If your symptoms (NOT related to HIV) are bothersome, schedule an appointment with your physician for diagnosis.