By refusing him the right to seek medical care is is enabling him lean on her. This problem needs to be dealt with outside of the family.
My 4 cents on this situation, esp. the part about trying to get an alcoholic to take care of himself:
1) Codependent no more.
2) Al Anon.
3) if he doesn't change his ways he's likely short for this Earth. It's a free country.
4) Alcoholism is at root a disease of selfishness
as all this goes down...take care of yourself....there may be nothing you can do...i would check in on the alcohol form...good luck....billy
the yellow skin could be jaundice but the only way to know if for him to go to the doctor. Even if he will not stop drinking, he needs - and you need - to know what can be done for comfort. I wish you luck on this hard road
Nobody has a crystal ball that can tell us the future.
This man needs to see a doctor who may be able to help him realize the truth of his situation.
This isn't for you to decide. Nor is it your place to judge him.
If you've been addicted to a substance for this long you need a lot of help to change, and often that help needs to come from outside the family.
Any compassionate person would bring this man to a doctor. Do the right thing. Call a doctor for him NOW !