Husband said he's dumping me! Questions about insurance.

[worrywortmom]

Husband said last night he has had it with me and that this is it! Now that he know's that he's hep-c free. I've been having a hard time talking to him about the diease and when he found out I got on janis7hepc.com and chatted he was furious. If he leaves does his insurance have to cover me while being sick? Or will I be dropped, hope there is someone out there that has the same problem! Fresno calif.

[suzieq2]

If he is already like this and you haven't even started treatment yet. WOW now is the time girl.I have seen to many women procrastinate in the name of love and saving a marriage, that wind up left in the cold.Keep eyes open, mouth shut, and be the smart one and keep one leg up. Go to an attorney today so they can stop him from canceling your insurance, hiding assets ect.Just because you file does not mean there will be a divorce.Protect and take care of your own interest. Continue to let him think that he is in control. Surprize is best defence.Something is rotten in Denmark.I had a controlling xhusband who thought I was a stupid good girl.BOY did he find out different.

[worrywortmom]

i dont have children from him, and his insurance doesnt have open enrollment. when we got married he just added me. I dont know what he's thinking but I ahave a feeling he's pulling a power trip on me. Like he has me by the *****. And wants me to be a good little girl or else. Im not one to back down. He also makes alot of money and will have to pay alamony. With my circumstances my guess he will have to pay alot.

[cuteus]

worry; you do not have to disclose your hcv status or your intent to tx to the insurance co.  you can just ask a general question about coverage after divorce, period.  You don't have to go into details. You will obviously be covered while still married, unless he pulls a fast one and stops the premium payment or takes your name out.  So you only need to know what can happen after divorce, as a general concern for you and the children.

cin: hum! good point, men that are quick to bail out, are sometimes having extracurricular activities, even if the deny it through their teeth>

[suzieq2]

When he say's ugly things, Just respond "Pea Soup" He won't have a clue.

[suzieq2]

I am so sorry your husband is so sorry.You have him by the ****'s right now, which obviously, his are the size of a pea.If you are not going to have his support on this treatment, you are better off being by yourself. Stress does reduce treatment success.This disease separates the men from the boys.I am not an advocate of divorce, but I see red flags of something else going on behind the scene.Make sure you have a good attorney that will make sure that you and your children will be cared for finacially. You are right. A Judge will squeeze those peas.I would not reccomend contacting your insurance company at this time. They are in the business of collecting premiums, not paying claims.If they can find a way out of paying alot of money for your treatment, most will take it.I don't think you have much to worry about in the financial aspect with a good attorney.Better to find out now what kind of honor this man is made of, before you become an old lady, and but in a home somewhere.To many precious wasted years.

[2irish]

i am sooo sorry you hae to deal with this.  treatment seems to bring out the best & worst in spouses.  I had a similar situation just before i started treatment.  you need to be strong for YOURSELF.  you can do this...i do agree with strator, though, about not running to the insurance co.  i don't have the feeling they are the most understanding.  how about an attorney.  he can't just pull your insurance...are you in a 50/50 state?  i think you are in CA, right?  You have your rights.  don't let him rattle you, take care of yourself.  he is probably scared, too.