New Tread ? I'm not sure...

[moonbutters]

I'm new to this forum , and very glad to know there is such a thing around.  My daughter said "Mom , you need to find some people to talk to about this " . And I thought , Gosh , where ?

But , I do have a question that may have already been addressed , if so I can't find it and so would appreciate comments or threads.

Is anyone here dealing with anger issus as far as how you got this to start with ? ...I am.

First of all let me say that I am not unfimillar with Hep - C as I had a sister who died from this 6 years ago. She had recieved a blood transfusion after being hit by a car while crossing a street. So for many years my family was accustom to taking all the nessesary precautions to prevent spreading.  She died a horrible death , and I was the one who "tended her" for the last few years.

I'm getting off track , but my point is , I am not unfimilliar with Hep-C .

My anger issues are as follows.

I met a man 8 months ago , no sex for the first month or so, then yes. We dated for a few months and then decided to marry .We married on March 24th of this year. About a week later he told me he had been for a routine checkup and was found positive for B and C.. I was shocked , scared and curious. So... after looking through his medical records I discovered that in fact he had been diagnosed over 9 years ago with both.

This leads me to my point. I am Very angry and not at all sure I can live with a man who was dishonest to me about such a serious matter. As I told him , more than likely I would have said , " OK , I know what to do and I can deal with this . But the fact that I wasn't given a choice really upsets me. I could have prevevted this from happening to me if I had known.

Am I being unreasonable ? Am I wrong ? We argue alll the time and some days barely speak because this is always in the back of my mind.

Gosh, I'm gonna hush now ...LOL.

Just hoping for some comments. And yes, I am Hep -C positive now . "they" estimate 6 months.

Thanks,

moon

[Kerfluffle]

A few other sources:

San Diegio STD Fact Sheet (has HepC listed):
http://www2.sdcounty.ca.gov/hhsa/ServiceDetails.asp?ServiceID=581

San FranciscoCity Clinic STD Fact Sheet (HCV listed under STDs)
http://www.dph.sf.ca.us/sfcityclinic/stdbasics/hepatitis.asp

Texas Department of State health Services (HepC listed under STDs)
http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/hivstd/info/edmat/hepc.shtm

There are hundreds of other authoritarian references listing HepC as an STD.  So it seems that some health care professionals and even some of us having HepC are misinformed about whether it is ir is not an STD.

One more thing is that a quick review of the literature shows that the newer publications no longer say that it is unlikely to catch HepC sexually they all now say that it is merely less possible to catch it that way than from direct exposure to blood.  

[Kerfluffle]

I think that everything you said I have heard before from health care professionals .  But there seems to be some confusion about it .

Here is a page from the Center For Disease Control  (  http://www.cdc.gov/std/Treatment/2006/hepatitis-c.htm  ).  It is listed there as an STD.  Yet I have heard other "professionals"  say that HepC is not an STD - but there is is in full color at the Center for Disease control.

And isn't this thread about someone who just got HepC from a partner who had it?  I can not deny that I have heard other health care people say the same thing that you have but the Center for Disease Control seems to disagree and that a pretty authoritative source.

They say

[Trinity4]

HepB IS considered an STD - HepC is not.  There is very low probablility of passing on HepC sexually but it can happen and everyone should tell their sexual partner in they have HepC.  However, doctors do not recommend you use any extra precautions if you are involved in a monogamous relationship.  HepC is not on the list of STD's as is HepB.
Trin

[Kerfluffle]

You know the sexual aspect thing is kind of confusing isn't it?  On one hand they emphasize that it isn't catching very much sexually but on the other they continually point out how anal intercourse and/or rough gay sex is very much a risk factor.  Well Hellloooo!  It's contradictory.  It's as if the people who make up those little fact sheets are  too embarrassed about anal sex to consider it when pressed.  "Sex you say?  No that's not a risk factor , not really - don't even need to use condoms with your monogamous partner.  Oh Anal sex! Why didn't you say so !  Go get yourself tested right away!"  

So HepC is a funny disease because is seems to not be an STD for straight vanilla people with monogamous partners (all 12 of them and they're all Mormons) but it seems to very much be an STD for everyone else.  The virus isn't the only thing that mutates around here it seems to me.

[moonbutters]

Yes, from everything I've read and heard it is rare to transmit sexually, but can happen . Most agree on about 3 to 5 % of cases are transmitted this way. That's why I'm thinking (as my doc said) razor sharing or something of that nature. But sex is possible. It takes very little precaution to avoid spreading C. I know from havingn a sister with this for half her life. She was as you mentioned in a monogamous relashonship fpr 5 years prior to death and never transmitted it to him.

What is surprising to me is that I don't have the B as well as I understand it's much easier to transmit. Hmmm.

But , yes you'r right of course. I don't think any of the Hep's are considered an STD . But with the numbers of infected people nationwide and world wide, (staggering , as more are dying from Hep than AIDS)  indicate that this is being spread , and fast. And like AIDS , it's not a "gay or drug user " thing It can happen to anyone. Neither myself , my current husband or my sister are or were either.

But really , I was just wondering if the anger issue had been brought up before . I don't know how all this will work out , but yes , I am angry that I wasn't given a choice to decide for myself.

Hugs to all . Have a great day..:)

moon

[IAmTheWalrus]

You certainly deserve to know. I witheld the information from practically no one. But you have the wrong idea about sexual transmission for Hep C. It is a very rare occurrence by my understanding and experience. CDC does not even recommend condoms for monogamous couples. I was maried for 30 years and had five children with my wife (yeah, we also practiced a lot when we weren't trying to procreate, also :) I found I am positive (likely got it a years before I was married) and she remains negative despite the decades of intimate living and relashionships.

As much as it may benefit research of the disease, it is disengenuous to maintain that it is an STD. There is no scientific basis for this that I have seen.