what to do?

[nina_fiancee]

i will marry after 3mothes,i did the medical tests and i found virus c positive..so what to do?i love my fiancee more than my self,so i just want to know is it right to leave her?so she can avoid having virus c..yes or no? Plez reply clearly..

[meNtoby]

Do know that if you start treatment, you must practice adequate birth control, as the drugs can be harmful to the baby.  This issue should definitely be discussed before marriage.  Best of luck to you both,
c.

[jmjm530]

Tell her and then get married if that's what both of you want.  There are many people here married  where one partment has Hepatitis C. Sexual transmission  is not common. In fact the CDC does not even recommend condoms for monagamous couples although that is always an option.

You do not have to treat to get married so dont confuse the two issues.  That's a separate matter and should be discussed with your doctor. Not everyone with Hep C chooses to treat for a number of reasons.

[scruples]

Dear Ninan_Fiancee

Results have shown that there are very very very rare chances of transmitting HCV through sex , even the stats show less than 1% chances of transmitting through sex. However it is possible if sexed with more than one partner.

I have also HCV and i have planned my marriage after the treatment of HCV which is 6 months only.

Do consult with yur doc, if he suggest that u need treatment at this stage then go ahead and get treatment first and then do the marriage (however you can even get married during treatment ) and if suggests you dont need treatment at this stage then theer is no worry, just get married happiely

dont worry your HCV is not going to be transmitted to her through sex

[merryBe]

there are 8 genotypes and some 50 subtypes of the HCV virus.

Some of them are very successfully treated, Rates as high as 90% in some case, even 50% of the harder to treat genotypes can clear with treatment.

I would think if you love each other you could work it out,
HCV is not as contageous as HEp A or B. Most couples who are monogamous can live married 20-50 years with one person positive and the other never getting it.
As long as no blood products are exchanged there is only minimal risk of transmission.

Maybe this is a test of your true devotion to one another. I would definitely tell her....but be sure you get educated first so you don't scare by being underinformed.
Is there a way you could treat for the disease? It is possible to be cured now if one has access to the drugs and good doctors to treat you.

I think you are being admirable in thinking leaving her would benefit her...but you need to make that desicion WITH her, not FOR her. She may love you and want to bear this out with you. "for better or worse, in sickness and in health".  If she has already accepted your proposal, then in her heart she may already feel the marriage bond has been sealed even if the consumation has yet to occur. The old fashioned idea was that the "Betrothed" already were committed to each other from the date of the engagement on.  If you love each other, work it out together, don't sell yourself short by pushing someone away who may be capable of far more selflessness and devotion than you know.
MB