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Got the call I didn't want HSV
I just got a phone call today, regarding my Herpes Test, which I was told came back positive. I go in tomorrow for a follow up, the nurse however did say the Dr. wanted to put me on Acyclovere. They did a swab of a sore i had, however the dr. said he doubted it was herpes, but reserved his right to be wrong (apparently he was) he originally diagnosed it as Molluscum Contagiosum (again apparently he was wrong)
I was in a relationship with the same person for the last year, previous to that I wasn't with anyone for 2 years. Previous to that I was with the same person for 3 years.
My questions are:
1. I assume I got this from my most previous girlfriend, since I have never had any sort of outbreak of anykind before. Is it honestly possible she had NO CLUE she had it? Could she have recently gotten it, by sleeping around?
2. Is there any chance a swab test can be false?
3. I have been reading as much as I can over the last several months now on herpes, and I am stressed out over this. I have not told my now Ex-Girlfriend about this yet I am waiting until tomorrow after my dr apt. What does this mean to my sex life, I mean I can't casually date someone now in good conscious with knowing I have Herpes, without telling them, and what do you do if you are casually dating someone, say right before you have sex, "hey by the way I have Herpes you still want to have sex?"
I don't know what to do now, I am completely thrown by this.
I was in a relationship with the same person for the last year, previous to that I wasn't with anyone for 2 years. Previous to that I was with the same person for 3 years.
My questions are:
1. I assume I got this from my most previous girlfriend, since I have never had any sort of outbreak of anykind before. Is it honestly possible she had NO CLUE she had it? Could she have recently gotten it, by sleeping around?
2. Is there any chance a swab test can be false?
3. I have been reading as much as I can over the last several months now on herpes, and I am stressed out over this. I have not told my now Ex-Girlfriend about this yet I am waiting until tomorrow after my dr apt. What does this mean to my sex life, I mean I can't casually date someone now in good conscious with knowing I have Herpes, without telling them, and what do you do if you are casually dating someone, say right before you have sex, "hey by the way I have Herpes you still want to have sex?"
I don't know what to do now, I am completely thrown by this.
It is also a known fact that HSV1 and 2 outwith their preferred Sites are less severe or troublesome in the majority of cases .....
Daisy
Daisy
"Now just a note to anyone else who reads this, my outbreak was not uncomfortable, it didn't bother me in the slightest, it only started being itchy the last couple of weeks, but there is no open sore anymore, and will not be on acycolvere."
Correction here.. I will be on Acyclovir.
Correction here.. I will be on Acyclovir.
Thank you for your thoughts, comments, suggestions Daisy.
I had an appointment today with the Dr. to go over my results, and it turns out (to his supprise) that I have Herpies 1 NOT Herpies 2. He explained there were several ways this could happen, that I could have potentially cross contaminated myself with a cold sore in my own mouth then touching my genitals, or Oral Sex, or She could have had a cold sore then touched my genitals.
Regardless, I have now been diagnosed with Herpes 1 on my genitals.
Dr gave me a presciption of Acycolvere and told me to to take it 3x daily for next 5 days 400mg. Then after that it would be up to me if I wanted to do it daily or use as needed. The outbreak I had was mild and my Dr didn't even think it was at first, like I said the first time I Went in he thought it was mollescum contagiousum. The second time 2 weeks later we agree'd to be on the safe side and test for herpes since I had a sore.
Now just a note to anyone else who reads this, my outbreak was not uncomfortable, it didn't bother me in the slightest, it only started being itchy the last couple of weeks, but there is no open sore anymore, and will not be on acycolvere.
Again Daisy, thank you so much for your words they are comforting to hear. Also comforting to know I'm not alone.
I want to be angry at someone but honestly there is no one to be angry with except the virus itself, and I think that *****.
Thank you!
I had an appointment today with the Dr. to go over my results, and it turns out (to his supprise) that I have Herpies 1 NOT Herpies 2. He explained there were several ways this could happen, that I could have potentially cross contaminated myself with a cold sore in my own mouth then touching my genitals, or Oral Sex, or She could have had a cold sore then touched my genitals.
Regardless, I have now been diagnosed with Herpes 1 on my genitals.
Dr gave me a presciption of Acycolvere and told me to to take it 3x daily for next 5 days 400mg. Then after that it would be up to me if I wanted to do it daily or use as needed. The outbreak I had was mild and my Dr didn't even think it was at first, like I said the first time I Went in he thought it was mollescum contagiousum. The second time 2 weeks later we agree'd to be on the safe side and test for herpes since I had a sore.
Now just a note to anyone else who reads this, my outbreak was not uncomfortable, it didn't bother me in the slightest, it only started being itchy the last couple of weeks, but there is no open sore anymore, and will not be on acycolvere.
Again Daisy, thank you so much for your words they are comforting to hear. Also comforting to know I'm not alone.
I want to be angry at someone but honestly there is no one to be angry with except the virus itself, and I think that *****.
Thank you!
No one wanted to get HSV but we did so the only way forward for you guys here is to firstly accept that it is now a part of your life but is little more than an annoying skin condition albeit sexually tramsmitted,no can start pointing fingers either because some people have had it for many years and don't even KNOW which is why it is spreading so much and I imagine there are few people who would knowingly spread it.
It doesn't mean the end of your sex life thats just plain silly to think that way,yes it will change things but I personally see no need for anyone to tell every person they meet,all that is required is to always practise safe sex and not at all during an outbreak,it is also an idea to go on Suppressive Therapy which means taking an anti-viral tablet twice a day this will reduce outbreaks for most and also reduce the risk of transmitting it,however when the virus has been caught during a short term split from a g/f it is necessary to tell her before putting her at any risk from unprotected sex she has a right to know she may get it,otherwise use a condom.
It is NOT the end of the world it just means minor adjustments as far as sex is concerned and it should not spell the end for any great relationship,if she fails to understand just how easy it is to get this and won't see you again because of it then I would say she is not the right person for you...... Unfortunately Herpes is out there and until a cure is found it will stay out there infecting people on a daily basis,the trick is not to allow it to rule your life you are no different to the people you see every day with cold sores on their mouth the only difference is the word "genital" that is the word that drags it down to a seemingly different level when it's NOT it's on level par with oral Herpes it's only the location that people refuse to accept as being just as common as if it were on the lips or mouth and until they do it is people like you and me who have to suffer the stigma as well as the condition.It's difficult I know but sooner people get themselves educated on this the better it will be and it wouldn't be driven underground like it is through ignorance of the condition,few people think about it or research it until they get it which is why they don't understand.
Live your life as normally as possible and don't let it take over your every thought it hasn't changed the person you are and always will be so don't let it think of it as what it is an irritating skin condition that is contagious from time to time and you have to be careful during these times thats all.....no need to join Monastaries or lock yourself away ..... learn to live with it not against it many people have much worse to live with every single day.
Daisy
It doesn't mean the end of your sex life thats just plain silly to think that way,yes it will change things but I personally see no need for anyone to tell every person they meet,all that is required is to always practise safe sex and not at all during an outbreak,it is also an idea to go on Suppressive Therapy which means taking an anti-viral tablet twice a day this will reduce outbreaks for most and also reduce the risk of transmitting it,however when the virus has been caught during a short term split from a g/f it is necessary to tell her before putting her at any risk from unprotected sex she has a right to know she may get it,otherwise use a condom.
It is NOT the end of the world it just means minor adjustments as far as sex is concerned and it should not spell the end for any great relationship,if she fails to understand just how easy it is to get this and won't see you again because of it then I would say she is not the right person for you...... Unfortunately Herpes is out there and until a cure is found it will stay out there infecting people on a daily basis,the trick is not to allow it to rule your life you are no different to the people you see every day with cold sores on their mouth the only difference is the word "genital" that is the word that drags it down to a seemingly different level when it's NOT it's on level par with oral Herpes it's only the location that people refuse to accept as being just as common as if it were on the lips or mouth and until they do it is people like you and me who have to suffer the stigma as well as the condition.It's difficult I know but sooner people get themselves educated on this the better it will be and it wouldn't be driven underground like it is through ignorance of the condition,few people think about it or research it until they get it which is why they don't understand.
Live your life as normally as possible and don't let it take over your every thought it hasn't changed the person you are and always will be so don't let it think of it as what it is an irritating skin condition that is contagious from time to time and you have to be careful during these times thats all.....no need to join Monastaries or lock yourself away ..... learn to live with it not against it many people have much worse to live with every single day.
Daisy
Just wanted to say, I hear you.
At least you're not in a relationship. I've been able to put off meeting up with my girlfriend since my first outbreak, as we're both super busy. Must have gotten it from a spontaneous hookup with an old flame while my girl and I were having a spat. But we're scheduled to meet early next week. I can't tell her the truth.. I know it's immature, but I just can't, it would break her heart and the thought of it makes me want to vomit. So I'm going to make some idiotic excuse for a breakup. I'm just too busy, honey.
After a beautiful couple of years it has to end like this? I feel like a bloody idiot.
And the future isn't any brighter.
But there's always monastic life... Or, just think of the time a guy who never has to worry about getting laid could dedicate to his work. We'll be toasting herpes in the top floor bar of the plaza hotel in a mere few years.
At least you're not in a relationship. I've been able to put off meeting up with my girlfriend since my first outbreak, as we're both super busy. Must have gotten it from a spontaneous hookup with an old flame while my girl and I were having a spat. But we're scheduled to meet early next week. I can't tell her the truth.. I know it's immature, but I just can't, it would break her heart and the thought of it makes me want to vomit. So I'm going to make some idiotic excuse for a breakup. I'm just too busy, honey.
After a beautiful couple of years it has to end like this? I feel like a bloody idiot.
And the future isn't any brighter.
But there's always monastic life... Or, just think of the time a guy who never has to worry about getting laid could dedicate to his work. We'll be toasting herpes in the top floor bar of the plaza hotel in a mere few years.
sorry to hear. by the sounds of things it is not causing too much irritation. u may never have another outbreak and if you do as time goes on they get less and less. as for dating it will change things a bit. the right thing is to tell people if you do have it.
there are dating sites for people in simular situations.
as a doc once said to me "if u both have it u can root like rabbits cause u cant get it again"
there are dating sites for people in simular situations.
as a doc once said to me "if u both have it u can root like rabbits cause u cant get it again"
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