Am I ever going to have a normal relationship

[devistated209]

I just found out that I have HSV2. And I feel as if my life is over. How do I tell someone that I am interested in about it? My friend keeps telling me that after the "initial" shock of finding out is over that Ill be fine. But I feel anything BUT fine. Everytime I think about it all I want to do is cry. Im told stress has a big part to do with ob's, but how can I not stress on it. I hope this doesnt sound like "poor me", but Ive never been married. And I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. My first ob wasnt that bad, and after takoing the medication for a few days its already clearing up. I know that I can give it to someone else through "shedding", but what are some of the ways that I can prevent someone else from getting it? What if the condom breaks? Should he wear 2 condoms? What about a female condom  AND a male condom at the same time? What are the chances of having a "normal" relationship with someone? Because my first initial ob wasnt that bad, does that mean that I could go a few months without another one? Ive read the info on that site out of Oregon, and while it was very helpful, Id like a more personal viewpoint on all of this. I know that this is alot, but I feel that knowledge is power, and I just really need some support in all this. Ive only told 3 people that I really trust. But they can only give me opinions based on someone that doesnt know what I am dealing with. And can only be somewhat understanding. Im soooo tired of crying over this, but it seems like thats all I do. I dont expect all my questions to be answered. I just really need some support. Thank you.

[alaskaguy83]

Hi,
I just wanted to chime in real quick. I had an unfortunate experience a while back and am still in the process of trying to confirm a herpes diagnosis. I instantly had the same concerns as you. After doing some online research I found out that there exist online dating websites for people with STD's. You can make a profile and search for 'matches' based on what STD's other users have. I don't know, just something to think about...plenty of other people in the exact same situation though!

[lizy44]

you're not alone, and yes you will be able to have a normal relationship again. It does however take time. You need to accept what you have before your next partner can accept it. Then when you find someone that you care about you can have the talk. It doesn't have to be the end of the world though, if you talk about it calmly with your partner they will take it better. The more you know about it the better because your partner may ask you questions about it. Now they may need to take some time to think about it but that doesn't mean that they don't want to be with you. If the guy doesn't want to deal with it or breaks up with you that just means that he wasn't the right one.

I know right now is a very emotional time and the crying will stop. Like I said before it takes time and please protect yourself and others and help stop the spread of this.
If you haven't gone to it yet I would recomend going through the american social health association website.