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Anger!
How do I deal with the anger I feel towards the man who gave me this? I feel he has destroyed my life. I can never enjoy sex again, since sex give me herpes ob every time, in spite of 1000 mg Valtrex a day. So even if I have a partner who is already infected I cant have sex.
I feel this man has destroyed my life and I hate him for it.
I feel this man has destroyed my life and I hate him for it.
you need to be talking to a professional about these issues dear. don't let them fester and get worse!
It is hard as a provider sometimes to be supportive about herpes. It's incredibly common and in the big picture, not a big deal at all. When it's you that has it though, adjusting to the "idea" of living with herpes, thanks you society, is easier said than done sometimes. if you had any underlying issues on top of it, this is just one more thing to weigh you down :(
in time, you will see that in the big picture, you contracting herpes was really just a pot hole in the road of life but right now, it seems like a major detour for you it sounds like ( can you tell it's summer with road construction everywhere ? he he he ). Give yourself time to adjust. Maybe pick up a copy of Terri Warren's book "the good news about the bad news" - it has a whole chapter on the psychological side of living with herpes. Is herpes the end of your sex life? No!! I've had it for 25+ years myself now and it certainly hasn't held me back at all! I've been in and out of love, I've had the sex life I've wanted, I've been married and divorced and had a family all while having genital herpes. it's what you let it be in your life. As I said before, I think most of this will get easier once you figure out what all is going on and control the non-herpes part of all of this. Meanwhile do yourself a favor and get some counseling to help support you as you work through all of this so that you can get back to living life to the fullest :)
It is hard as a provider sometimes to be supportive about herpes. It's incredibly common and in the big picture, not a big deal at all. When it's you that has it though, adjusting to the "idea" of living with herpes, thanks you society, is easier said than done sometimes. if you had any underlying issues on top of it, this is just one more thing to weigh you down :(
in time, you will see that in the big picture, you contracting herpes was really just a pot hole in the road of life but right now, it seems like a major detour for you it sounds like ( can you tell it's summer with road construction everywhere ? he he he ). Give yourself time to adjust. Maybe pick up a copy of Terri Warren's book "the good news about the bad news" - it has a whole chapter on the psychological side of living with herpes. Is herpes the end of your sex life? No!! I've had it for 25+ years myself now and it certainly hasn't held me back at all! I've been in and out of love, I've had the sex life I've wanted, I've been married and divorced and had a family all while having genital herpes. it's what you let it be in your life. As I said before, I think most of this will get easier once you figure out what all is going on and control the non-herpes part of all of this. Meanwhile do yourself a favor and get some counseling to help support you as you work through all of this so that you can get back to living life to the fullest :)
Maybe I am overreacting but I feel such hopelessness and anger. I cant believe my gyn told me "this was nothing to be upset about, noting". To her it was routine, very common, nothing to be concerned about. But to me - well goddbye intimacy and love and hello doctors, procedures, pain, sores, medication and....
Suicidal thoughts - depression - anger - regrets. Knowing I haven´t done a very good job protecting my self.
Still haven´t gotten the results back btw...
Have made an appt for HIV-test too.
Suicidal thoughts - depression - anger - regrets. Knowing I haven´t done a very good job protecting my self.
Still haven´t gotten the results back btw...
Have made an appt for HIV-test too.
hopefully you soon get to the bottom of what all is going on in addition to herpes so that you can treat that and have less issues in your genital area. once you get things quieted down there, it helps you to process things and move forward.
have you considered talking to a counselor at all?
grace
have you considered talking to a counselor at all?
grace
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