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Dating guy with HSV
Hi,
I just started dating a guy and he told me that he takes valtrex daily for HSV, that he never had a blood test to diagnose it or know which type he had, but that the doctor told him he had herpes after seeing the sores in his mouth and confirmed prior genital outbreaks. Since being on valtrex no new genital outbreaks, but he says he still gets lesions in his mouth on occasion.
We have only gone out twice and I haven't even kissed him yet. I know I have HSV1 (from prior bloodwork/did have cold sores as a teen but never in the 20 yrs since). So of course, I wonder what this means for me and if I need to be concerned about continuing to date him.
Would there be any reason for me to ask him to test to see what type he has? Since he gets sores inside his mouth (never on the lip like a cold sore, but in his mouth), what are the risks of kissing when he doesn't have any outbreaks? I know safe sex practices would be necessary, but kissing isn't something you can do anything about.
Just wondering what I need to be aware of to make a decision about what to do.
Thanks.
I just started dating a guy and he told me that he takes valtrex daily for HSV, that he never had a blood test to diagnose it or know which type he had, but that the doctor told him he had herpes after seeing the sores in his mouth and confirmed prior genital outbreaks. Since being on valtrex no new genital outbreaks, but he says he still gets lesions in his mouth on occasion.
We have only gone out twice and I haven't even kissed him yet. I know I have HSV1 (from prior bloodwork/did have cold sores as a teen but never in the 20 yrs since). So of course, I wonder what this means for me and if I need to be concerned about continuing to date him.
Would there be any reason for me to ask him to test to see what type he has? Since he gets sores inside his mouth (never on the lip like a cold sore, but in his mouth), what are the risks of kissing when he doesn't have any outbreaks? I know safe sex practices would be necessary, but kissing isn't something you can do anything about.
Just wondering what I need to be aware of to make a decision about what to do.
Thanks.
Agree with Grace on this. Your new friend needs to be tested to know for sure. As Grace says, only having sores inside the mouth doesn't sound a whole lot like herpes. The Doctor got him on Valtrex without even confirming with a test.
On a side note, it's no secret there is big money in the pharma business. I know someone who is very close to me who is in Pharmaceutical Sales. I can tell you without a doubt that even though most doctors try to genuinely diagnose before writing prescriptions etc, there is something called a "speaker" that Pharmaceutical Sales people refer to. "Speakers" are Doctors that agree to "push" a drug (especially new products) for Pharmaceutical companies in exchange for cut rate deals etc on the drugs they get. I myself was a victim of this type of thing several years ago. They are not prevalent but they do exist. Just an FYI to be aware of.
I'm not saying necessarily this is the case with the guy you're dating\, but like Grace indicated, He possibly has been spending a lot of money for nothing.
Tell your friend to get proper testing (Igg type specific blood test) as Grace mentioned so he can determine if he really needs to be taking anything at all.
Good luck!
On a side note, it's no secret there is big money in the pharma business. I know someone who is very close to me who is in Pharmaceutical Sales. I can tell you without a doubt that even though most doctors try to genuinely diagnose before writing prescriptions etc, there is something called a "speaker" that Pharmaceutical Sales people refer to. "Speakers" are Doctors that agree to "push" a drug (especially new products) for Pharmaceutical companies in exchange for cut rate deals etc on the drugs they get. I myself was a victim of this type of thing several years ago. They are not prevalent but they do exist. Just an FYI to be aware of.
I'm not saying necessarily this is the case with the guy you're dating\, but like Grace indicated, He possibly has been spending a lot of money for nothing.
Tell your friend to get proper testing (Igg type specific blood test) as Grace mentioned so he can determine if he really needs to be taking anything at all.
Good luck!
certainly this fellow needs to find out better what is going on! So far he's had a very shoddy work up and has spent a lot of money taking valtrex without knowing if he even needs it or not :( he needs to seek out a type specific herpes igg blood test to see what his status is.
sores inside the mouth are usually canker sores and not oral herpes. canker sores are not contagious.
grace
sores inside the mouth are usually canker sores and not oral herpes. canker sores are not contagious.
grace
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
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