Someone I've been dating for a month just recently informed me that she has type 2 HSV. To date we have had no sexual contact that involves our genitals or mouth. I have read up on the virus and find that its the stigma that presents the largest problem with people who carry the virus.
Most of the literature downplays the condition as no more than a skin rash and, depending on which research you read, anywhere from 10 to 25% of people already have it. But what I don't see addressed is the position of the person who does not have it pursuing a relationship with some one that does. From what I have learned, it will be transmitted to me at some point, it may takes months or years. That is of course if I don't already have it. And considering that 50% of marriages end in divorce, my guess is even a greater number of relationships end. This will leave me in the position of having to explain to any new sexual partners that I have the virus, a position I would not like to be be in (as she expressed clearly to me the fact that she does not like the position she's in). I feel absolutely horrible to even have these thoughts, she is a wonderful person but there is no guarantee that we will make it in the long run at this early point of our relationship.
So I guess my question is, is it fair to say I will contract the virus at some point in a long term relationship, regardless of following all the recommended precautions? And secondly, is there any good advice for someone who does hot have the virus on how to how to respond with this new development so early into our relationship?