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I was diagnosed with genital herpes one month ago. I contracted it by receiving unprotected oral sex. So I'm guessing the person has Hsv 1. After getting the news I told the person I was with and they went to get checked for everything and was negative. Although, herpes wasn't tested because the person never had symptoms. is HSV 1 a milder case of herpes? Will I get few breakouts because its HSV 1?
I thought my doctor would refer me to one, but he just doesn't seem to care. So much about healthcare. I think I'm handling having herpes, I'm just so scared that receiving oral sex, possibly, exposed me to other diseases. I don't know why I feel like the person I was with might have exposed me to HIV. I know, ive been told that I can't get HIV from receiving HIV oral sex, or at least it's very difficult to get it that way. It's hard to feel/believe that my life is worth anything any more.
time to find a counselor - doctors are not very good at it. you need a professional who's trained to hear you and make you feel better about your bad feelings.
unfortunately not many doctors are interested in informing about herpes. most of them just don't know how to do it. as grace already told you, read the free herpes handbook by terri warren and you'll be very well informed about the matter!!
unfortunately not many doctors are interested in informing about herpes. most of them just don't know how to do it. as grace already told you, read the free herpes handbook by terri warren and you'll be very well informed about the matter!!
Hi grace! I saw my doctor today and he made me feel worse. I told him about my depression and horrible thoughts, and he did nothing. He completely ignored me. I asked more questions about herpes, and he just looked at me as if I was just taking up his time. He was half way out the room when I tried to ask more questions. I feel so lost. Not even a doctor, whom I'm paying for the visit, can't even make me feel better. I just don't know what to do.
Is herpes that common? Maybe I just never really thought about it. I think I'm miserable because I'm still trying to understand it. I don't know why I think I have HIV, especially since I don't think I did anything that would put me at risk. I have to take what you said, herpes is what I have not what I am, and take control of my life. I've let the negativity consume me and I haven't been me recently. I just don't know why I think about HIV so much. I hate the fact that I do.
sores in the mouth are usually canker sores and aren't contagious.
you didn't get hiv from oral sex dear.
more people you know have herpes than don't - it really is THAT common and you aren't a "bad" person because you got it. it's something you have, not what you are!
you didn't get hiv from oral sex dear.
more people you know have herpes than don't - it really is THAT common and you aren't a "bad" person because you got it. it's something you have, not what you are!
Hi Grace, I agree with you. I'm up and down, emotionally. More up but I feel depressed when something triggers it. For example, there was a news story about oraquick HIV test and I take this as some sort of sign, sometimes I get spats of diarrhea, which is probably triggered by my anxiety, nerves, and stressing about everything. Also, I sometimes feel as if I'm getting a sore in my mouth but it goes away within a day. I don't know why I torment myself and think the worse about everything. Thank you for talking with me. This really helps. It's comforting.
I think you need to talk to a professional at this point about your feelings at this point. do it for yourself because life is far too short to feel this bad about something .
The only sex I've had in the past year was oral sex, I tested for everything and it came out negative. I just feel like anything is possible since I contracted herpes orally. I'm so paranoid for the worse.
you didn't contract hiv from oral sex.
What really worries me us that I contracted something else, too. Even though the doctor did a full work up on me, I think the person I was with gave me something else. Even the person I was with got another check up after I broke the news. Everything came out clean, but I don't know if I can trust what I was told, since I contracted herpes after I was told that the person was clean. I'm so worried about HIV. Even though i only received oral sex, I just feel that since I contracted herpes, I can also contract HIV.
I'd call and ask for a recommendation for a counselor or therapist to talk to now, not wait a few weeks.
I'm going to see my doctor in a couple of weeks and I'm going to mention to him that I've been depressed, ever since I've been diagnosed. I've had sleepless nights, waking up in a panic and drenched in sweat. I feel my overall health is being compromised due to me being depressed. The Only thing tha has kept me going over the edge is that I have a good friend and a sister that know my situation.
Contracting viruses has nothing to do if you are "good" or "bad". They are never punishment for something you did. sexuality is completely normal !!
you can still kiss people and be the same exact person you have always been. being diagnosed with genital herpes doesn't change any of that at all.
have you thought about talking to a professional for these negative thoughts you are having?
you can still kiss people and be the same exact person you have always been. being diagnosed with genital herpes doesn't change any of that at all.
have you thought about talking to a professional for these negative thoughts you are having?
I just feel like I'm being punished for giving into temptation. Plus, this virus has a reputation of infecting people that are "dirty." I now know that this happens to good and bad people.
how can you be a bad person if you now have something that 60% of the people under 50 around you has? see where that thought process isn't making any sense at all yet?
Thank you for recommending those books. I will definitely look into reading. About the plastics bubble thing, I just think no one is ever going to want to touch me again. I am already a self conscious person with low self esteem, and contracting this virus makes me feel less of a person. I feel like a failed everyone that I love and I won't be able to live a normal life anymore.
why would you need to live in a plastic bubble for something that so many people have?
I encourage you to read the free herpes handbook by terri warren. just google it and it comes right up. her book "the good news about the bad news" is also terrific and really addresses the psychological side of herpes too. it's under $20 on amazon.
keep asking questions!!!
I encourage you to read the free herpes handbook by terri warren. just google it and it comes right up. her book "the good news about the bad news" is also terrific and really addresses the psychological side of herpes too. it's under $20 on amazon.
keep asking questions!!!
I really don't know that much about it. That's why I expected my doctor to be more informative and educate me. Since he told to avoid all contact with people, I thought my life was not worth continuing. He really made me feel I was damaged goods and not worth anything. I've been stressing myself out thinking I can't even hug or give a peck on the cheek to my niece and nephew anymore without giving them the virus. I'm so lost, confused, and depressed, and my doctor didn't wasn't even their for me, medically. I have no idea what has become of my life now. I feel like I need to live in a plastic bubble for now on.
WORST ADVICE EVER!!! I'd write a letter of complaint to the clinic manager about your experience there!
you are not a walking biohazard who has to avoid others!! hsv1 genitally isn't very contagious in general as well as 1 out of every 2-3 people you know. has hsv1 either orally or genitally. it's incredibly common!
so what do you do now? well for any future partners, you need to be talking about std's and testing ( what everyone should be doing anyways along with birth control use and condom use ). Make sure a partner is getting herpes testing since it's not a part of routine std testing. you can still contract hsv2 so knowing a partner's status is important for the both of you so that you can make educated decisions together about what precautions to take.
keep asking questions!
you are not a walking biohazard who has to avoid others!! hsv1 genitally isn't very contagious in general as well as 1 out of every 2-3 people you know. has hsv1 either orally or genitally. it's incredibly common!
so what do you do now? well for any future partners, you need to be talking about std's and testing ( what everyone should be doing anyways along with birth control use and condom use ). Make sure a partner is getting herpes testing since it's not a part of routine std testing. you can still contract hsv2 so knowing a partner's status is important for the both of you so that you can make educated decisions together about what precautions to take.
keep asking questions!
Hi grace! They did a culture. I had 4 blisters. Two of them burned/ hurt. The MD prescribed acyclovir, 3 times a day for 10 days. I know my life has totally changed and I've been so depressed. I thought I was being safe, but I guess safe isn't safe enough. The worst of it is that my doctor didn't even try to educate me more about it when I asked him a list of questions I emailed him after he emailed me my results. All he said was to avoid all contact of people.
if the person wasn't tested for herpes, then they didn't complete their std testing. if their regular clinic doesn't offer type specific herpes igg blood testing, they should seek it out elsewhere.
hsv1 on average doesn't occur very often and it doesn't shed much. About half of folks with hsv1 genitally won't get another recognizable reoccurrence. of those who do, the average is 1 additional ob the first year and then 1 ob every other year. Only a small percentage have recurrences more often.
what testing did they do for herpes when you were seen?
grace
hsv1 on average doesn't occur very often and it doesn't shed much. About half of folks with hsv1 genitally won't get another recognizable reoccurrence. of those who do, the average is 1 additional ob the first year and then 1 ob every other year. Only a small percentage have recurrences more often.
what testing did they do for herpes when you were seen?
grace
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
