pain with herpes/ and spreading

[dabb24]

I was diagnosed two days ago with oral and genital herpes, well I'm waiting on my results to come back, but I have every sign there is, and my doctor is about certain it is as well. I'm 21 yrs old, and scared. I'm in a lot of pain, I can't eat because my lip hurts so bad, my gum's are swollen and sore in places. my glands on my throat are so swollen Its hard to sleep because of the pain from it. I'm scared of spreading it to my eyes. but mostly scared of spreading it to my parents, they think I'm ridiculous because Ive made them wash there hands all the time, I'm walking around with hand sanitizer, and i made my dad wear gloves when he cleaned the bathroom today. I don't think i'm being crazy I just don't ever want anyone to go through this especially the two most important people to me... my parents. So if anyone has any tips on not spreading the virus, or how to get rid of the swollen gland pain in the throat it would be greatly appreciated, Ive tried ice, ice cream lol, and the pain meds the doctor gave me, nothing is helping.

[gracefromHHP]

do you have hsv1 or hsv2? Which tests came back +?

Have you considered talking to a counselor about this at all?

Terri Warren's new book "the good news about the bad news" is a terrific resource. You can find it on amazon for under $15 and it really spends a lot of time with the psychological side of having herpes. I really recommend reading it if you can afford it.

grace

[dabb24]

Thank you for writing back, I got my results back and i was positive, as i thought its been really mentally to deal with, I had broke up with my X 4 days before the break out and turns out it was him who i got it from, although i used protection every time, i still got it, i knew condoms weren't 100 percent but still sucks, this was one of my worst fears ive always been crazy about protection. I just recently have been hanging out with a new guy hes great, but each great time i have with him follows with a day of depression and anger because i fell like it wont go anywhere, not looking forward to ever telling someone i care about the reason i wont have sex with them is because i have herpes, I have a friend say u can still sleep with people just use condoms you dont have to tell them, but I would NEVER do that to some one, because it was done to me and now I am in the worst depression ive ever been in in my life. I just hope for it to get better, that I dont feel like i do now for too long, i know it wont last forever, but gah i dont see how i will ever feel at ease with this.

[gracefromHHP]

Unless your parents are kissing you, they aren't at risk. No reason to go over board on the sanitizer or anything.

What testing did you have done so far?

What medication did they give you for herpes?  How much?

Only time will make the glands go down :(  Hang in there, the first ob is the worst and it will get better.

grace