HSV Misdiagnosis?

[boriqua19888]

**This is long, sorry. I want to be as clear as possible*
I would really appreciate another person's opinion on this matter. I have an appointment with my GYN next month to get tested again thoroughly and really make sure but the wait is driving me insane.

So my ex had hsv-1 in the mouth and went down on me without me knowing his status. He thought it wasn't anything to share since he'd had it since childhood. I was dumb for not making sure we were both ok, lesson learned obviously. But we were engaged and since he gave it to me he felt that it didnt matter whether we used condoms or not (after we both got tested again) That was all back in 2008. We broke up in 2009 but just got back in touch. I hadn't had sex since him and didnt get another STD test since I didnt think it made sense to get one since I was celibate. Yet I did go to the GYN like I'm supposed to. Any way, when we recently started talking again. Yesterday I asked if he ever got tested again and he told me 3 weeks ago saying only the oral herpes showed up in the mouth.

So how, after having unprotected sex for a year after finding out I had both genital and oral herpes, could he not have the genital kind? Either I'm misdiagnosed or he's lying....

FYI: I took an antibody blood test and research states its not 100% accurate
I never had an outbreak, even to this day, never. I've NEVER had an outbreak above or below before or after the test in 2008 which means the've never tested an actual sore
I know all about asymptomatic cases since I'm one of them
My doctor refused to give me Valtrex (which is why I seeing a different one next month)
Asked my ex if he took the right test, since certain ones aren't given in general testing
Was tested a month before me and my ex got together meaning my status was CLEAN before this came about. I always used safe sex practices and he was the first person I let perform oral sex on me since I knew about oral herpes. Sucks that I had to get it from someone I loved and trusted.

Please advice! I'm tired of being treated like a germ when I try to be honest about my situation to new guys. So hard to live with this =[ Thanks soooo much in advance.

[gracefromHHP]

I admit I'm a bit confused by your post and need some clarifications.  you contracted hsv1 orally and genitally both from your former partner who has a history of cold sores - is that correct?  What testing did you have done at that time to diagnose you?

grace

[franklinandbash]

Please post the results for your blood test so we can look at them as well as the type of test. Some people can go years of unprotected sex with an hsv2 positive person and not get it, they are just lucky. Please do not refer to yourself as clean/ dirty. All you do is add to a social stigma that is already bad enough. Would a person with cancer consider themselves dirty for having it and clean if they did not? If a man will not accept you for having something as hsv2 you're better off not having them. Hsv2, though a pain, is not life threatening and really common. Most people do not realize this. Chances are they could have it too and not know.

Hope this helps, keep asking questions